The Nice Guy is Gone
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Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What a great no-answer. I'm guessing you're a KBDJ.Originally posted by HuuBinh
A DJ wouldn't even put himself in such a position to be rejected in such a harsh manner in the first palce because he has already screened the girl.
A DJ would also anticipate the kinds of reactions coming from the girl according to how he projects himself when he approaches her.
The important thing to know is that, if a DJ projects a positve non-threatening vibe, he can anticipate the same positive responses from the girl.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Oh, and no, i didn' read any of the replies, so if Ive sorft of repeated something, then my bad guys.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
I would tell her to get some ****ing manners and to sort her **** out, then tell her to have a nice day.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.