The Nice Guy is Gone
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Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What a great no-answer. I'm guessing you're a KBDJ.Originally posted by HuuBinh
A DJ wouldn't even put himself in such a position to be rejected in such a harsh manner in the first palce because he has already screened the girl.
A DJ would also anticipate the kinds of reactions coming from the girl according to how he projects himself when he approaches her.
The important thing to know is that, if a DJ projects a positve non-threatening vibe, he can anticipate the same positive responses from the girl.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh, and no, i didn' read any of the replies, so if Ive sorft of repeated something, then my bad guys.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
I would tell her to get some ****ing manners and to sort her **** out, then tell her to have a nice day.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.