The Nice Guy is Gone
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Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What a great no-answer. I'm guessing you're a KBDJ.Originally posted by HuuBinh
A DJ wouldn't even put himself in such a position to be rejected in such a harsh manner in the first palce because he has already screened the girl.
A DJ would also anticipate the kinds of reactions coming from the girl according to how he projects himself when he approaches her.
The important thing to know is that, if a DJ projects a positve non-threatening vibe, he can anticipate the same positive responses from the girl.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Oh, and no, i didn' read any of the replies, so if Ive sorft of repeated something, then my bad guys.Originally posted by white_hype
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1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
I would tell her to get some ****ing manners and to sort her **** out, then tell her to have a nice day.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.