The Nice Guy is Gone
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Question for everyone, answer Honestly!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
seeing as how that's never happened to me personally, I'd assume I'd be thrown off. And seeing as how there's nothing I really could do I would just say a smart ass remark and keep going.
It's the equivelent of getting your a$$ whooped; nuthin to do but keep on truckin.
It's the equivelent of getting your a$$ whooped; nuthin to do but keep on truckin.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
1. Keep walking.
I give my signal. No signal back... no go.
Do not place too much value on any one woman until she earns it.
I give my signal. No signal back... no go.
Do not place too much value on any one woman until she earns it.
Socialreject
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Ok... HIGHLY dependant on my mood and the girl itself (looks, attitude etc) i would probably...
1) Approach her and just make a simply situational opener, not paying any attention to the fact that she was ignoring me. Or i would do a ****y opener along the lines of 'hi, i noticed you ignoring me and was just wondering if you could change that for a few minutes so i could get your opinion on something (situational)...'. Why? Hmmm, why do you approach any girl?
2) LOL. Ok i would definitely have a good ol' laugh before saying anything else. Then I'd say something like... "that time of the month huh" (in a friendly way), or "That's no kind of way to score points with me woman" (friendly). Maybe she would catch me one of my nasty morning moods (not a morning person) and it might be something more along the lines of "excuse me for being friendly 'your highness', something you obviously have no clue about. Time to consider therapy...kthxbye!" (i have a bad character traits that I'm basically not a very 'nice' person if you catch me in one of those moods).
How would i feel afterwards... Well if my friendly replies went anywhere I'd feel pretty good about it. If they went sour same deal (her problem not mine). If i was in a bad mood I'd prolly feel good as well after verbally owning her. So yeah...good basically, unless i fell on my ass. Then I'd feel more like 'ouch i got owned hard'...but oh well
1) Approach her and just make a simply situational opener, not paying any attention to the fact that she was ignoring me. Or i would do a ****y opener along the lines of 'hi, i noticed you ignoring me and was just wondering if you could change that for a few minutes so i could get your opinion on something (situational)...'. Why? Hmmm, why do you approach any girl?
2) LOL. Ok i would definitely have a good ol' laugh before saying anything else. Then I'd say something like... "that time of the month huh" (in a friendly way), or "That's no kind of way to score points with me woman" (friendly). Maybe she would catch me one of my nasty morning moods (not a morning person) and it might be something more along the lines of "excuse me for being friendly 'your highness', something you obviously have no clue about. Time to consider therapy...kthxbye!" (i have a bad character traits that I'm basically not a very 'nice' person if you catch me in one of those moods).
How would i feel afterwards... Well if my friendly replies went anywhere I'd feel pretty good about it. If they went sour same deal (her problem not mine). If i was in a bad mood I'd prolly feel good as well after verbally owning her. So yeah...good basically, unless i fell on my ass. Then I'd feel more like 'ouch i got owned hard'...but oh well
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SynapsyS
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Oh, and no, i didn' read any of the replies, so if Ive sorft of repeated something, then my bad guys.
1. So she didn't catch EC? So? I'd still open with her, and see where it goes. There are plenty of times this has happened, you have to be aware that sometimes girls are just busy. Of course, if you initiate EC, and she looks at you in disgust and turns away, avoids you, then don't be such a dumbass, read the signs
This is more of a case by case question really.2. How dare she insult me in a public place like that? Is she SO high and focking mighty that she has to degrade guys like that. Stupid botches like that don't deserve my time. And i'd say all that too. I'd probably use several sexist profanities in there as well, just to ram the point home.
Honest enough?
edit: read situation 1 wrong, answer ammended.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
1) i wouldn't approch (no EC)
2) i'd walk away laughing because she just showed me her true colours and saved me tons of time; she is a snob, she is inpolite, not respectfull......she takes a dum, and whipes her ass just like the rest of us, she is notting special (even tho she thinks she is.).....
2) i'd walk away laughing because she just showed me her true colours and saved me tons of time; she is a snob, she is inpolite, not respectfull......she takes a dum, and whipes her ass just like the rest of us, she is notting special (even tho she thinks she is.).....
everywomanshero
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Answer
1. I would approach regardless of eye contact or lack of. Unless there was extreme circumstance preventing me from doing so. I mean, I don't approach every beautiful woman I see, all day everyday, because I may be feeling lazy, hungry, or something.
2. Well, that kind of thing happens. If she was really being extreme and she was solo, I guess I'd probably fire back some routines I developed for that. I made these up based on David D's style. I don't think I would be terribly upset, because we all know that's going to happen. It's just part of the deal.
1. I would approach regardless of eye contact or lack of. Unless there was extreme circumstance preventing me from doing so. I mean, I don't approach every beautiful woman I see, all day everyday, because I may be feeling lazy, hungry, or something.
2. Well, that kind of thing happens. If she was really being extreme and she was solo, I guess I'd probably fire back some routines I developed for that. I made these up based on David D's style. I don't think I would be terribly upset, because we all know that's going to happen. It's just part of the deal.
jiza101
Master Don Juan
I would tell her to get some ****ing manners and to sort her **** out, then tell her to have a nice day.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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In the 2nd scenario where the girl reacts really badly I would honestly wonder what her problem was?
Probably say something like:
"Relax. I'm not trying to pick you up..."
and probably leave
Probably say something like:
"Relax. I'm not trying to pick you up..."
and probably leave
SELF-MASTERY
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I don't see this ever happening to me; people love me.
I would tell to please work on her attitude, and I would walk away.
Has this ever happened to you?
I would tell to please work on her attitude, and I would walk away.
Has this ever happened to you?
ItalianoPuro
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1 I would try to figure out some ****y opener and try to start a convo
2 I would feel a bit AnGrY! LOL! And don't know what I will do... never happened
let me read the other posts now
2 I would feel a bit AnGrY! LOL! And don't know what I will do... never happened
let me read the other posts now