The Nice Guy is Gone
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Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by ikkenai
stab her
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What a great no-answer. I'm guessing you're a KBDJ.Originally posted by HuuBinh
A DJ wouldn't even put himself in such a position to be rejected in such a harsh manner in the first palce because he has already screened the girl.
A DJ would also anticipate the kinds of reactions coming from the girl according to how he projects himself when he approaches her.
The important thing to know is that, if a DJ projects a positve non-threatening vibe, he can anticipate the same positive responses from the girl.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Oh, and no, i didn' read any of the replies, so if Ive sorft of repeated something, then my bad guys.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
I would tell her to get some ****ing manners and to sort her **** out, then tell her to have a nice day.Originally posted by white_hype
NOTICE: Please do not scroll down to see other responses first. Please list your honest reaction to the question.
1-OK, let's say you are walking down the street and have no plans for the rest of the day, its around 1pm, and on the way to class/the movies/grocery store/wherever and you see an attractive girl that you really want to talk to. You try for EC but she doesn't give it to you.
What would you HONESTLY do here,, why
2- Let's say you decide to approach her. You give her your opener (it doesn't matter what it was... either a simple HI, a situational one, a routine, etc, doesnt matter for this example) and she responds very badly. She replies "what the **** are you talking to me for? Do you really think you could get with someone like me? look at yourself! hahah you are so ugly and weird!"
How would you HONESTLY react? how would you feel after the approach?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.