You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
'learn' is probably the wrong word (not that one should even need to 'learn' to hold eye contact and stuff lol)I doubt it´s even possible to do that many approaches and learn nothing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Some people have no ability at all. He's claiming 20 approaches a week for 5 years. 20 approach weeks aren't that difficult for short period of time, but unsustainable for 5 years. That's close to 3 approaches a day. If he lives in NYC or London pre-pandemic, 3 approaches on the street isn't that difficult. If he's going to the bars regularly pre-pandemic, a 3 approach night in a bar is easy to achieve. To get 3 approaches in on a hiking/walking path or grocery store with any social calibration is going to take a 2 hours a day.If you do something that many times and don't learn how to improve and get some success then either you are completely oblivious or simply have no ability to do so.
After a minimum of 500 he should have at least gotten 1 person to bite.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly...Look good - Feel good - Smell good - And the females will approach him!The guy would be better off just devoting the approaching time to weight lifting. Getting huge muscles will get some women to give you their vag with minimal effort if you are average height or taller.
I always have projects orcleanup around the house or on my computer (e.g., building my genealogy spreadsheet) where I can be minimally invested in the video. I actually could use more videos from him.I like Facelms, but who has time to watch a multi-hour yt video?
But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.I met a guy who told me that he had approached 2000 girls and had no success. He was a bit socially awkward and in his country the women are difficult (holding out for marriage etc). But since I didn't see how he was approaching women or what exactly he was saying, I don't know what he was doing wrong. What I suspect is that what he counts as an approach is just talking to a woman.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.
Women make up their minds about guys 3 seconds after seeing them. They think they are hot and every guy wants them.I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.