She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
'learn' is probably the wrong word (not that one should even need to 'learn' to hold eye contact and stuff lol)I doubt it´s even possible to do that many approaches and learn nothing.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Some people have no ability at all. He's claiming 20 approaches a week for 5 years. 20 approach weeks aren't that difficult for short period of time, but unsustainable for 5 years. That's close to 3 approaches a day. If he lives in NYC or London pre-pandemic, 3 approaches on the street isn't that difficult. If he's going to the bars regularly pre-pandemic, a 3 approach night in a bar is easy to achieve. To get 3 approaches in on a hiking/walking path or grocery store with any social calibration is going to take a 2 hours a day.If you do something that many times and don't learn how to improve and get some success then either you are completely oblivious or simply have no ability to do so.
After a minimum of 500 he should have at least gotten 1 person to bite.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly...Look good - Feel good - Smell good - And the females will approach him!The guy would be better off just devoting the approaching time to weight lifting. Getting huge muscles will get some women to give you their vag with minimal effort if you are average height or taller.
I always have projects orcleanup around the house or on my computer (e.g., building my genealogy spreadsheet) where I can be minimally invested in the video. I actually could use more videos from him.I like Facelms, but who has time to watch a multi-hour yt video?
But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.I met a guy who told me that he had approached 2000 girls and had no success. He was a bit socially awkward and in his country the women are difficult (holding out for marriage etc). But since I didn't see how he was approaching women or what exactly he was saying, I don't know what he was doing wrong. What I suspect is that what he counts as an approach is just talking to a woman.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.But technically its that though. As long as you dont chicken out too early if she is showing enough interest then it should all count.
Women make up their minds about guys 3 seconds after seeing them. They think they are hot and every guy wants them.I think if you don't make a move then it doesn't count. I think guys are often thinking they got rejected when the girl didn't even know that they were interested because they didn't make it clear.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.