Fenderules
Master Don Juan
which one are you? just curious to see a ratio. Lol im bored
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wow, there is nothing even remotely DJ about that? Treating girls like sh*t, then laughing at your friends? At what point are you getting the ladies? And why don't you help your friends out.Originally posted by Jack McCrack
Almost DJ in my opinion and in my friends' eyes. (You know you're improving when your buddies tell you that you treat girls like sh*t, that your style never works, watching them shower girls with gifts and compliments, and laughing when they fall flat on their face)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Originally posted by cant think of a user name
Whoa, more than half of the people (53%) who contributed to this poll declared themselves a "Recovering AFC"!
What does that say about the people who frequent this site? I don't know, but it sends a very clear message:
53% of us need more experience in the field instead of speaking theoretically from the armchair.
Good luck guys =)
Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Aequitas, keep dreaming...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Absolutely.It's a never-ending evolution of ideas, attitudes and a never ending attempt at testing. You get better and better at everything as you live your life improving yourself. However, you will never become a complete Don Juan.