"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pole: Afc, Major AFc, recovering Afc, or Don Juan

What do you consider yourself?

  • Average Frustrated Chump

    Votes: 1 3.0%
  • Major Rock Bottom Frustrated Chump

    Votes: 2 6.1%
  • Recovering Average Frustrated Chump

    Votes: 13 39.4%
  • Almost Don Juan

    Votes: 11 33.3%
  • Don Juan

    Votes: 6 18.2%

  • Total voters
    33
  • Poll closed .

Fenderules

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which one are you? just curious to see a ratio. Lol im bored
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Fenderules

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lol gues this poll falls like a lead balloon.........


maby bad example (you get it if your a zep fan)
 

Jack McCrack

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Almost DJ in my opinion and in my friends' eyes. (You know you're improving when your buddies tell you that you treat girls like sh*t, that your style never works, watching them shower girls with gifts and compliments, and laughing when they fall flat on their face)

Also, brush up on your spelling.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Climax

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I'm the Master, the blaster... The Ultimate Romancer!! ......

100% Don Juan:cool:


Laterz....
 

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Whoa, more than half of the people (53%) who contributed to this poll declared themselves a "Recovering AFC"!

What does that say about the people who frequent this site? I don't know, but it sends a very clear message:

53% of us need more experience in the field instead of speaking theoretically from the armchair.

Good luck guys =)
 

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Originally posted by Jack McCrack
Almost DJ in my opinion and in my friends' eyes. (You know you're improving when your buddies tell you that you treat girls like sh*t, that your style never works, watching them shower girls with gifts and compliments, and laughing when they fall flat on their face)

Wow, there is nothing even remotely DJ about that? Treating girls like sh*t, then laughing at your friends? At what point are you getting the ladies? And why don't you help your friends out.

The difference between you, a jackass, and me, a DJ, is that I don't treat girls like sh*t. I don't take sh*t off them though. And I get any girl I want, but I also help my friends get any girl they want. Use your knowledge for good, not evil. And if you are a true DJ, alot of guys are going to hate you, so play nice with your friends.
 

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I hate those stupid abbreviations and stereotypes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fenderules

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Originally posted by cant think of a user name
Whoa, more than half of the people (53%) who contributed to this poll declared themselves a "Recovering AFC"!

What does that say about the people who frequent this site? I don't know, but it sends a very clear message:

53% of us need more experience in the field instead of speaking theoretically from the armchair.

Good luck guys =)



your totally right and im one of them, i need to get this done now. im getting off the computer. later guys
 

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News Flash...

Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Aequitas, keep dreaming...

I make dreams into reality my friend... Deal with it. :cool:
 

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worse than afc. only better than guys who cant approach and have never gotten laid.
 

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I am a Don Juan, I guess...... but then again i could also be considered a recovering AFC...since this is where i started.

This poll is flawed, in that everyone's idea of what each of these catagories stands for will be quite different.


I am a Don Juan, because I finally have control of my life... my career.. I don't take sh!t from no one. I am the leader of my circle of friends (if you can put it that way) and I have only been rejected by one girl over the past 2 yrs.... I've dated about 6 and slept with over 20. All of them were HB9's. Now i finally weeded through all these ladies and I've ound the one who i think I'm gonna marry, eventually. She's perfect in every way.

I think i deserve the title of Don Juan... as do many other guys on here, for what we've accomplished.


The Bad Ass Canadian
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This poll is flawed indeed.
Being a Don Juan doesn't exist.

It's a never-ending evolution of ideas, attitudes and a never ending attempt at testing. You get better and better at everything as you live your life improving yourself. However, you will never become a complete Don Juan.

It's kind of like saying "I am a perfect football player". You will never hear those that are truly great saying that, because they know it will never happen.
However, there is that goal in each of our minds, that we strive to accomplish. Unattainable as it is, it is a great goal to pursue.
Keep on improving yourself, learn enjoying the path of self-improvement and you will realise that you will always be "Almost DJ".
 

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It's a never-ending evolution of ideas, attitudes and a never ending attempt at testing. You get better and better at everything as you live your life improving yourself. However, you will never become a complete Don Juan.
Absolutely.


I was going to add that bit to my post, but it slipped my mind as i was typing.

There is no roof on this. Plateaus, maybe but there is never a capped limit where there is no more room for improvement.

I guess we are all recovering AFC's and will always be that way, from this perspective.


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