Fenderules
Master Don Juan
which one are you? just curious to see a ratio. Lol im bored
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wow, there is nothing even remotely DJ about that? Treating girls like sh*t, then laughing at your friends? At what point are you getting the ladies? And why don't you help your friends out.Originally posted by Jack McCrack
Almost DJ in my opinion and in my friends' eyes. (You know you're improving when your buddies tell you that you treat girls like sh*t, that your style never works, watching them shower girls with gifts and compliments, and laughing when they fall flat on their face)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by cant think of a user name
Whoa, more than half of the people (53%) who contributed to this poll declared themselves a "Recovering AFC"!
What does that say about the people who frequent this site? I don't know, but it sends a very clear message:
53% of us need more experience in the field instead of speaking theoretically from the armchair.
Good luck guys =)
Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Aequitas, keep dreaming...
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Absolutely.It's a never-ending evolution of ideas, attitudes and a never ending attempt at testing. You get better and better at everything as you live your life improving yourself. However, you will never become a complete Don Juan.