"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Physical Preferences

The Duke

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As guys we are probably more visual than women and have many physical preferences when it comes to beauty standards for the opposite sex.

Women do make a big deal about male height and hair when it comes to online dating, but are less strict about that if they meet you in public. How about you?
Do your physical preferences for women change for women online vs. in public? Do you have physical dealbreakers?
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My physical requirements for women are the same no matter how I meet them. I won't even consider a girl that is 15 or more pounds overweight or has short hair. Also small b00bs are not mine thing at all. I used to date a girl that had fake b00bs and when she got them out she was left with some flat miniature pancakes that I struggled to get past. Girls that have no curves and straight hips like guys are also gross to me.

I really can't complain about women and their preference for height and hair, when my preferences are far more stringent.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Natural indicators of good health.

A healthy bodyweight, bright eyes, good skin, no tattoos and usually cheerful (people can have bad days).
 

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Long and healthy (brown) hair, dark eyes, soft lips, cute face, feminine softness also on the inside - that's my type.

My dealbreakers are: too tall, arrogant, too basic, too much makeup on, smokes, drinks coke, has unhealthy hair, or some bad pimples on her body, walks like a transformer, etc...

I wonder if the main preference of everyone is related to their first romantic/intimate experience... Such is my case.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I cant lie I'm a dog...I like both skinny and thick women...sometimes I can even be attracted to a " unattractive " women who has some kinda x factor....(hb6 )

All colours too . . darkskinned ,blonde/ redhead /brunette ,Asian..perhaps Arabic women have a slight edge to me but thats due to the "forbidden fruit " factor.
 

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I'm attracted to a pretty wide variety of women...honestly if they look like they are going to be fire in the bedroom and are above average looking I'm good.

Some of the best sex I've ever had has been with women with less endowed chests...almost like they know they have to try harder. :lol:
 

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Do your physical preferences for women change for women online vs. in public? Do you have physical dealbreakers
I have very few dealbreakers.
Speaking of height, I prefer shorter girls ("shawties"), ideally 5-2' to 5-6", but it's not a dealbreaker. Don't think I would like it if she was taller than I am though (5'10").
Definitely prefer no tattoos at all. I wouldn't reject for one or two small tasteful ones, I guess, but I don't like them. Obviously sleeves or the like are out.
Thin is better but I'm okay with a little extra weight, depending on how they carry it. I am a breast man so sometimes the larger breasts can be worth the trade off for a little more weight. Small boobs can be okay too, but she'd better be fit.
 

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I don’t smoke, and I tend to be most attracted to people who maintain a healthy lifestyle.

One common denominator among the women I’ve dated is that they tend to have distinctive eye colours, such as green, honey, or blue. I also used to be opposed to tattoos, but I’ve become more open-minded, especially when they’re thoughtfully chosen and suit the person.
 

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I don’t smoke, and I tend to be most attracted to people who maintain a healthy lifestyle.

One common denominator among the women I’ve dated is that they tend to have distinctive eye colours, such as green, honey, or blue. I also used to be opposed to tattoos, but I’ve become more open-minded, especially when they’re thoughtfully chosen and suit the person.
Oh..smoking is out for me...I don't even like weed so anyone who is a weed head is out too. Once in a while, whatever.

But I didn't mention that since that technically isn't a physical trait :lol:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.”

" Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . . "


― Ayn Rand
 

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“Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy on life. Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. No matter what corruption he’s taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which he cannot perform for any motive but his own enjoyment–just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity!–an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exaltation, only in confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire.”

" Sex is one of the most important aspects of man’s life and, therefore, must never be approached lightly or casually. A sexual relationship is proper only on the ground of the highest values one can find in a human being. Sex must not be anything other than a response to values. And that is why I consider promiscuity immoral. Not because sex is evil, but because sex is too good and too important . . . . "

― Ayn Rand
This is why I reject women who don't fit my criteria.

This discussion is conceptually similar to this thread:

 

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A good body primarily.
I’d be happy enough with a ‘butterface’ chick with a banging body, thats usually the best I can get ( for casual ) anyways..

As the old saying goes
“You don’t look at the mantelpiece when you’re poking the fire “! :rofl:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well… if you think about it, it’s mostly true ;)
Someone should create a thread "what are/were your best, hottest, most erotic sexual positions or sexual things you ever did with your partner whether steady, a plate or random ONS.

I bet it would be an interesting discussion! :lol:
 
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