"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Opinions on girls that smoke cigarettes

How do you feel about women that smoke cigarettes?

  • Turn on

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Complete turn off

    Votes: 14 66.7%
  • Don't care at all

    Votes: 4 19.0%
  • Don't care, but she's not smoking around me

    Votes: 2 9.5%
  • Probably good, since I smoke too

    Votes: 1 4.8%

  • Total voters
    21

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lizardking82

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Smoking cigarettes is sth people who wanna supress their emotions do, at least in my experience. It's like, when **** hits the fan and you are so stressed you are willing to shorten your life sucking on a practically cancer pipe. It is the same with alcohol drinking and the same with drug use. I think it is a trait of generally weak people who so badly wanna kill the mental pain they have from a certain event in their life that directly resort to the quickest solution: put a cigarette on your mouth and smoke it.

I never smoked, drank or did drugs myself. Whenever I am angry, stressed or anything of the kind, I use natural ways to supress it: lay in my bed, kick hard with my legs and hands all over the place while I scream; go for a walk; go for a run; play some football (soccer, not the American one); listen to music; talk it over with someone.

Smoking chicks is not simply smoking chicks. In either case, they're either doing it to be cool which screams immature/stupid to me from far away OR they are doing it to kill the pain/misery/stress/disillusions of their daily life which screams to me they are weak people in general and probably have an habit of falling pray to different substances later in life once faced with stressful situations. I don't date them, I don't wanna be anywhere near them. I try to hang out with people who don't smoke and I do so almost all the time.
 

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I've also never done drugs. I've drank and smoked in the past, and still occasionally enjoy a light beer, so I'm not being judgmental - just curious how others react to smokers.

I agree that it's a way of detaching, and it's obviously used to relieve stress. I personally just hit the gym when I feel like this.
 

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I've also never done drugs. I've drank and smoked in the past, and still occasionally enjoy a light beer, so I'm not being judgmental - just curious how others react to smokers.

I agree that it's a way of detaching, and it's obviously used to relieve stress. I personally just hit the gym when I feel like this.
A light beer or a glass of wine or smoking some pot with friends to get high for une on some occasion is a different thing and to heck, I might do that once in a while, too. But I think you know who I was referring to in my comment up there. It is the regular users, not the casual ones, that I have a problem with.
 

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Depends on how much....too much, is too much. I'd like a lady, who is going to live awhile.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Show stopper.

I chose my current girlfriend out of a 3-way kiss with her and a gorgeous cigarette smoker. The rest was history.

Make one attempt to get them to quit (I did this once in 2003 and the girl (one of my greatest lovers ever) loved me for it, and another girl wrote to me last week to say she quit smoking because of me). They need to do a liver detox colon cleanse and they should naturally want to stop.
 

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I've never went out with a woman that does this to excess (eg, 20 a day).

Find the judgement above to be a bit strange. Been out with smokers who were great women, and ones that were not so great. Same with non-smokers.

The cigarettes had very little bearing on it.
Of course there plenty of non-smokers that are **** people and there are smokers who are great people, too. I said it in general, my average girl, when she smokes...it comes with another bagagge full of other problems. Smoking at an early age is a sign that this person has a lot of stress in their life, so much so they need to use nicotine (cigarettes are practically soft drugs) to kill it. Would you be eager to date a drug user? Would you be eager to date someone that is hooked up on some stress medication or regular painkillers or sth? I wouldn't really.
 

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I have nothing against smokers but I would never date a smoker. Reason: breath.

I can't stand bad breath, I can't stand morning breath, and I can't stand smelling my own bad breath- much less another persons. One of my automatic turn off is bad breath.

Women who vape are fine though since their breath is always a fun flavor. I knew a girl who smoldered a pack a day, disgusting and that kind of addiction is also a turn off...
 

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I smoke (and do some other stuff) so it's ok for me. Would be problematic for me to date woman that doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs, and has problem with the ones who does.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she smokes, she swallows! :rolleyes:
 

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I have banged a few chicks that socially smoked when they drank. However, I would never actually date a smoker or want to be around one all the time
 

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Same as tatoos, fine on a man not fine at all in a woman.

Would bang a smoker but not date one seriously not for the smoking itself but for what smoking in a woman means.
 
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