"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bigdave17

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I should have told you guys, I went out to bars last night and ran into a bunch of girls that work for my best friend. My friend owns a salon

One of the girls - very cute face but a little chubby and already a single mom at 26 threw herself at me but I obviously wasn't interested. She did tell me "I'm extremely hot" so that was very encouraging. None of the other girls were dateable - chubby, trashy, too old, smokers, etc...

Was actually a fun night and good encouragement. I noticed the girls liked me the most when I'm a little reserved and let the ladies come to me/treat myself like the prize/let them work for my attention

Less desperate I come across, the more successful I seem to be
 

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Isnt it true you PMd him?
Who, da dyn? Yep. I've talked to a bunch of SS guys over pm, never sexually tho, no nudes, nothing like that, nothing sexual.
 

sazc

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So when he said "@sazc is actually a hot chick" he was making it up?
Lol, oh boy. He wanted me to prove I wasn't a guy so I texted him my picture. I'm surprised you didn't get a copy, I hear he passed it around. Bigneil gave me a 7. But it wasn't a nude. He also passed out my phone number and two ss'ers called me. IMO pretty beta behavior all the way around.

Anyways this is really old news. Hopefully I've satisfied your curiosity as I would like to drop it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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devilkingx2

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If big dave is a handsome wealthy guy with inner demons, don't women eat that **** up? Why isnt he surrounded by women who treat him like a puppy and want to fix him?

In the same way that his strange charisma has us all here gathered in one spot, forming a phalanx to siege his mind castle and assassinate his doubt
 

sazc

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Oh good Lord. He tried. It was not pretty, lol
#Word on that

He did send both of us his picture.....I wouldn't put him any higher than a 6 - but he isn't the type of guy looks wise that I think is attractive
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dave, why do you keep saying "so and so said I was hot"

Like I told you before, as a good looking guy myself I can tell from your post your not as good looking as you think, hot guys don't have the issues that you have, but you blame it on you being picky? No, your just delusional

Why no pvssy? No girls in your life? If your so hot why such a long dry spell?

You see, if you actually were willing to learn and not just babble 24/7 then maybe you could of already realised your not as good looking as you think and then you could work on other aspects to be appealing to women.

Instead, you disregard everything we say and swear up and down your this hot guy with extremely high standards lol man please
 

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Thanks but I've learned my lesson lol
Sh!t happens sazc, Don't let a couple of experiences in the past dictate the future, sometimes you will miss out on things.......

I hear ya though.
 

sazc

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Sh!t happens sazc, Don't let a couple of experiences in the past dictate the future, sometimes you will miss out on things.......

I hear ya though.
Meh, I also had tenacity scream at me in pm telling me I was a racist, and other unsavory things. Lots of shiz went down in pm that I did not deserve. It's disabled now. It's easier that way
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lots of thirsty guys out there, and apparently on this forum. Respect. Learn it. Live it. Including here.
 

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Lots of thirsty guys out there, and apparently on this forum. Respect. Learn it. Live it. Including here.
True.

But it's damn entertaining.

@sazc you seriously need to take dave and give him a good spanking for being recalcitrant, he might change a bit, you'll never know.
 

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Omg there's girls on the internet. Surely they want random men from all over the world to hit on them. Smh
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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