"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Official NoFap January 2018

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What up.

This is going to be the official nofap progress report for January.

My goal is to never jerk off again in my life. But that starts with day 1, then day 10, then day 30, then day 100.

So lets go forth.

All who want to Join, please do so.

All who want to troll, please do so. ;)

-Narcissist
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Day 30. First 20 days felt the urge to do it, not very strong, but still.
Since a week - 10 days, all back to normal.

Positives: a little bit more energy, easier to approach girls and thinking/speaking is more clear than before.
 

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failed.

back to day 1 starting tomorrow. I am going to relentlessly stick to this until I quit. I'm an addict and I will keep trying regardless of failure
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Last fap was 2 weeks ago, i deleted around 15k vids and 40k pics from my pc last week, hardest decision i made in my life in the last 6 months. My biggest motivators are: energy, lower dht to reduce hair loss, more focus, and higher dopamine sensitivity to make things more pleasurable.


M U S T W A T C H


If you want to take it a step further to increase your focus, energy, and dopamine sensitivity, watch this too

 
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day 1 complete!
Failed after 25 days, day 1 for me today.

It was easy when I did 8 months nofap but after that it seems hard to keep at it for at least 1 month.

I didnt watch porn in over a year which was the biggest issue for me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Day 40+, urge to do it disappeared completely. Feels good!
 

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I’m doing increments. Relapsed after 15 days. So now I’m in day 2 and want to do 30 days
 

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It seems the most difficult thing for me is that when I take a bath at then end of the day (about 4 or 5 in morning, as I keep "Hef" hours), I think about the great gals on Chaturbate, or the good videos & pics I have in my stash (an internet search of "blondie belly dancer monroe" leads to favorite), and it gets me going while laying in the tub; it seems to be a Pavlovian reaction to me ending my day. I don't know - maybe I'm just very healthy now, but lately I've been able to get sp3rm to reach my forehead, and it has made it a good bit easier for me to get a good night's rest (which I suppose keeps me healthy, thereby continuing the good trend). Now when I am traveling and within access of "personal services", I am able to resist for a number of days, so as to get the most "bang" for my hour of coin in the "parking meter".

There may be some type of zen, Obi-Wan type of consciousness in NoFap, but I tend to think that it is an unnecessary denial of hedonic pleasure. In fact, I would say that the expectation of pleasure at the end of the day motivates me to work hard, perhaps calling me back to the motivation of the Beta, who must toil to get 'tang.
 
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