Reyaj
Master Don Juan
btw what is LMR and ASD?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Jayer said:Since Myspace has become a normal social tool in everyday life I'd like to think it's a good way to meet women.
I've seen some various Myspace threads but wanted to make this an official thread where all can post and collect advice for using this tool to get girls.
So does anyone routinely use this to get girls? If so please post your process and some tips which work well.
Me myself have been sending random girls messages but have not had much luck.
I am going to assume that Social Proof and a Good Picture are key to this...
Thoughts............?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hey bro at least you give the DIV overlay a shot. It works for me because the page I have is almost like a my personal company page where I design custom layouts for people. So I'm lucky enough to get a lot of the emo and designer chicks. It works well for the quick phone number exchange. I still have 2 other default profiles with comments and friends list. I have over 1,000 comments on my personal default page, but I never use that to spam chicks. I try to go for the AW's but you know how that is.Jayer said:You know I have to be honest here. I tried the div overlay and I think I have more success when girls see my commetns and friends as social proof.
Sort of a catch 22..... I think having a seperate page just for pimping might be the way to go for full force. And then having your own page and sending out messages every now and again for LTR type girls...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well said BB.Bible_Belt said:What do you want? It's too easy to write very much about practice. How hard can this be? Myspace is just an ice-breaker and recruiting tool to get phone numbers.
Some guys say it is too much work and not worth the effort, and I think maybe if you only want the most beautiful women, HB9+, then that is probably true. However, any strategy is going to be low-percentage with the hottest women; they're just harder to get. But if you just want to get laid, and a hb7-8 with the right attitude will make you happy, then myspace offers free access to thousands of women. It is worth it for the numbers alone.
Another thing I've noticed is that personal loneliness varies in direct proportion to time spent on myspace. The more time a girl spends online, the more desperate for companionship she is. Those female friends who always seem to be 'online now' are the paths of least resistance.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.