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Did anyone know any women on campus who worked at breastaurants, were hot bartenders while in college, or worked at strippers during college?

 

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Did anyone know any women on campus who worked at breastaurants, were hot bartenders while in college, or worked at strippers during college?

Not personally, but your assessment about meeting strippers in their daily life, through Daygame or other means, is spot on imo. My wing had a stripper girlfriend for a while. He met her outside of a Walgreens, doing Daygame.
 

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Not personally, but your assessment about meeting strippers in their daily life, through Daygame or other means, is spot on imo. My wing had a stripper girlfriend for a while. He met her outside of a Walgreens, doing Daygame.
Yes, the best way to pick up those women is somehow meeting them outside of work. It doesn't matter so much whether it is non-bar approaching, approaching them in a bar when they are off duty, or meeting them through social circle.

I was able to approach a stripper while I was in college and playing a co-ed pickup sport. Got her number and got a date. Later in life, I was able to approach a waitress at Dallas' most popular beer garden style bar while she was walking her dog outside of an apartment community. She had just gotten off work and had not changed out of her work clothes, which had the logo of the establishment on it. When I was doing that approach, I realized that I had least had a chance here. Any conversation I would have had with her at her beer garden style bar would have lumped me in her mind as some customer douchebag. In this approach, she was talking to me voluntarily and that was exciting. This was an approach that didn't result in a date or number but a positive experience.

Most men who work Mon-Fri 8:30 AM - 5:30 PM style jobs (either white collar or blue collar) don't have the lifestyle needed to regularly interact with hot bartenders or strippers and actually have an extended relationship of 3+ months with her.

It is true that a lot of college women have jobs in breastaurants, are hot bartender, or strip.
 

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Yes, the best way to pick up those women is somehow meeting them outside of work. It doesn't matter so much whether it is non-bar approaching, approaching them in a bar when they are off duty, or meeting them through social circle.

I was able to approach a stripper while I was in college and playing a co-ed pickup sport. Got her number and got a date. Later in life, I was able to approach a waitress at Dallas' most popular beer garden style bar while she was walking her dog outside of an apartment community. She had just gotten off work and had not changed out of her work clothes, which had the logo of the establishment on it. When I was doing that approach, I realized that I had least had a chance here. Any conversation I would have had with her at her beer garden style bar would have lumped me in her mind as some customer douchebag. In this approach, she was talking to me voluntarily and that was exciting. This was an approach that didn't result in a date or number but a positive experience.

Most men who work Mon-Fri 8:30 AM - 5:30 PM style jobs (either white collar or blue collar) don't have the lifestyle needed to regularly interact with hot bartenders or strippers and actually have an extended relationship of 3+ months with her.

It is true that a lot of college women have jobs in breastaurants, are hot bartender, or strip.
It seems that you just need to get lucky with meeting one of those types of girls in a venue outside of her work. Then, you can approach her from there.

Those examples that you highlighted are exactly what you would have to do.

Like we were talking about in the other thread, those high status jobs seem to be double edged swords. A necessary one, but a double edged sword nonetheless.
 

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The incident where I met the stripper playing a co-ed pickup sport in college was random and unsustainable. There are women in college who do strip while they are college students. That was the only stripper I met during my college life. That stripper wasn't even in the top tier of women that you would see on campus at the "Hot Girl U" I attended.
 

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For all: How much did your high school sexual experiences affect your decision to choose a college? How strongly were you considering the college sex life when selecting a college/university to attend? For me, the sexual environment was equally as important as the academic program I selected for my major at "Hot Girl U".

I would have preferred to have known a lot of things discussed in this thread when I was a high school junior or senior selecting colleges/universities. It is less likely that I would have selected "Hot Girl U" as I did.

It would have been better to make the college attendance decision solely based upon academic elements. I also would have preferred big time college football and college basketball to have not been a part of the campus element.
 
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For all: How much did your high school sexual experiences affect your decision to choose a college? How strongly were you considering the college sex life when selecting a college/university to attend? For me, the sexual environment was equally as important as the academic program I selected for my major at "Hot Girl U".
DEAR LORD, it screwed up my life and I had a quarter life crisis in my mid to late twenties fixing it. I chose SEC version of Hot Girl U, business major, joined a fraternity, and slacked off lol.

If I could redo it again:

A). Don’t turn down that Navy Officer ROTC Scholarship program to that small school my parents set me up for.

B). Enlist in the navy or Air Force first! I wasn’t mature enough to be at a university at 18.

C). Choose a less expensive state school and major in STEM.

I hate beating myself up about this because I did have a few factors going against me.

1). I easily got in to the school that I wanted

2). I was not mature enough and a horny virgin

3). I grew up in a well off area where I was used to meeting people that were CEOs, high up managers, doctors, lawyers, etc so I was like I just need to do what they did lol.

4). living at home after 18 wasn’t possible for me

5). My dad was an officer in the military so he deeply frowned upon enlisting.
 

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I chose SEC version of Hot Girl U
Many legacy SEC schools are schools I would call Hot Girl U. Hot Girl U is typically a public university in a Sun Belt state. However, there are exceptions to this...

1. Private schools in the Sun Belt - University of Miami and University of Southern California are two private schools that count as Hot Girl U schools.
2. A few northern public universities - Penn State University is the most notable northern school that I would say gets the Hot Girl U designation.

business major, joined a fraternity, and slacked off lol.
This isn't bad. Business is a useful major. Frats can be good for getting laid. Mostly the upper level frats that @Jesse Pinkman has discussed. Some frats are a big waste though. As long as you pass classes, no one cares about your GPA in your interviews for first post college jobs.

If I could redo it again:

A). Don’t turn down that Navy Officer ROTC Scholarship program to that small school my parents set me up for.

B). Enlist in the navy or Air Force first! I wasn’t mature enough to be at a university at 18.

C). Choose a less expensive state school and major in STEM.
This sounds like a decent plan.

2). I was not mature enough and a horny virgin
Being a horny virgin and not successful at mating in high school is going to influence a college decision. Even being a horny guy with 1-2 unstable sexual interactions in high school is also going to affect judgments. Horny virgins have it the absolute worst though with college decisions because they are going to be inclined to go to party schools/Hot Girl U type schools.

3). I grew up in a well off area where I was used to meeting people that were CEOs, high up managers, doctors, lawyers, etc so I was like I just need to do what they did lol.
You were basically indoctrinated into going into a white collar path rather than a blue collar or partial military path.

1). I easily got in to the school that I wanted
The school you thought you wanted was very much influenced by Factors 2 & 3 above.
 

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Many legacy SEC schools are schools I would call Hot Girl U. Hot Girl U is typically a public university in a Sun Belt state. However, there are exceptions to this...

1. Private schools in the Sun Belt - University of Miami and University of Southern California are two private schools that count as Hot Girl U schools.
2. A few northern public universities - Penn State University is the most notable northern school that I would say gets the Hot Girl U designation.
I went to Alabama haha, so I was in the epicenter

This isn't bad. Business is a useful major. Frats can be good for getting laid. Mostly the upper level frats that @Jesse Pinkman has discussed. Some frats are a big waste though. As long as you pass classes, no one cares about your GPA in your interviews for first post college jobs.
It's not if you want a cushion job that pays a modest salary. However, if you want more than 6 figs then you will either have to go into a field that requires internships(they look at GPA) in college such as consulting, the top accounting jobs(requires Internships & High GPA), getting into a leadership development program(they look at GPA) that puts you in a "position" to make it past middle management, information systems management, pedigree finance job(requires a pedigree university and High GPA), or a decent sales job. Unless you like sales, I would recommend Accounting or Information systems management if you are sticking to business. Otherwise, stick to STEM. In addition, you will find that a lot of upper management have engineering degrees and they will outrank your general business degree. The Supply Chain field is a prime example of this! Coming from a guy that makes six figures now and flew through college with a 2.5 GPA, DONT FVCK UP YOUR GRADES!!! Now for Fraternities, they will definitely give you access to women which every struggling man needs the most. However, they aren't some pvssy buffet paradise portrayed on the media lol.

Being a horny virgin and not successful at mating in high school is going to influence a college decision. Even being a horny guy with 1-2 unstable sexual interactions in high school is also going to affect judgments. Horny virgins have it the absolute worst though with college decisions because they are going to be inclined to go to party schools/Hot Girl U type schools.
I mean if you are turning down a school like Stanford for Arizona State because of girls then you need to be fvcking slapped lol. However, they aren't bad schools if they are your best option TBH. To the younglings in college, I would recommend watching Aaron Clarey/even paying for a video on what to do and he will give you the real answer on what happens to the guys that just cruise through college and got all of the women lol. Get into an LTR during college to ease your cravings. Fvcking countless pvssy left and right in college is overrated and most of Chad's in my fraternity only did it temporarily.

 

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I went to Alabama haha, so I was in the epicenter

Alabama is definitely a "Hot Girl U" school.

what happens to the guys that just cruise through college and got all of the women lol. Get into an LTR during college to ease your cravings. Fvcking countless pvssy left and right in college is overrated and most of Chad's in my fraternity only did it temporarily.
@Jesse Pinkman informed all of us that few guys at party schools/"Hot Girl U" schools are actually cruising through schools and getting all of the women. The majority are getting laid if they can find some extended girlfriend or barely at all.

There are guys that are able to bang 5-10 women during their 4 years of college and then struggle afterwards. Frat guys are a good example of this. Without the frat status, they aren't shiit in the post college world, they have no social circle fallback, and their verbal game in approaches stinks.

Now for Fraternities, they will definitely give you access to women which every struggling man needs the most. However, they aren't some pvssy buffet paradise portrayed on the media lol.
A few top tier frats that most men won't get into will get you women. It's debatable about what a non-top tier frat can do.

if you are turning down a school like Stanford for Arizona State because of girls then you need to be fvcking slapped lol.
Most guys who get into Stanford won't choose Arizona State over Stanford. If you're applying to Stanford, you're probably also applying to/considering schools like Northwestern, Notre Dame, Harvard, and Yale.

If you're applying to Arizona State, you're probably also applying to/considering schools like University of Arizona, Cal State Fullerton, San Diego State, UC-Santa Barbara, University of Colorado, or maybe University of Southern California. It's a different subset of schools.

There are a lot of horny guys who would consider the 2nd subset of schools because they are mainly "Hot Girl U" schools. Cal State Fullerton and University of Colorado are debatable as "Hot Girl U" schools but are both party schools.

This is a great point. Majoring in STEM is likely to ruin your college sex life. However, your post college life could be better as a Greater Beta Male due to having more job security and not worrying as much about layoffs. Salaries in the STEM fields are often good too. Let's also acknowledge that there are a lot of STEM guys who make good money but barely get laid post college too.

It's not if you want a cushion job that pays a modest salary. However, if you want more than 6 figs then you will either have to go into a field that requires internships(they look at GPA) in college such as consulting, the top accounting jobs(requires Internships & High GPA), getting into a leadership development program(they look at GPA) that puts you in a "position" to make it past middle management, information systems management, pedigree finance job(requires a pedigree university and High GPA), or a decent sales job. Unless you like sales, I would recommend Accounting or Information systems management if you are sticking to business. Otherwise, stick to STEM. In addition, you will find that a lot of upper management have engineering degrees and they will outrank your general business degree. The Supply Chain field is a prime example of this! Coming from a guy that makes six figures now and flew through college with a 2.5 GPA, DONT FVCK UP YOUR GRADES!!!
Business disciplines (including Economics and Finance) are easier majors than STEM. Business majors in college can either be cool guys or dweebs. There are so many of them that they are impossible to categorize well.

The worst business discipline is Marketing. Marketing is very layoff prone. Zero job security in Marketing.

Sales reps are usually some sort of general business major. Sales is tough. It's all about quota. They also get laid off a lot too.

Accounting and Information Systems are good choices of specialities/focus areas within a Business major.

MBAs are only useful at Top 25 schools.

A lot of the previous paragraph is accurate.

Business can be useful but due to its generality, is less useful than STEM.
 

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Can't speak to the way college is now, but when I was there you could get laid if you had self confidence and game. Game was everything. However, nothing was falling into your lap if your SMV wasnt good otherwise.
 

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Can't speak to the way college is now, but when I was there you could get laid if you had self confidence and game. Game was everything. However, nothing was falling into your lap if your SMV wasnt good otherwise.
We went to college around the same time.A lot of the trends that were emerging in the early to mid 2000s are the norm now. People were sending messages on instant messenger services back then, which was a precursor to texting. Dating websites were a thing back when we were in college Those just evolved into the swipe apps. On dating websites, women were getting bombarded with messages 15-20 years ago too. Cell phones became a thing around 2003.

The best thing about being in college was the campus & everyone being unmarried. Certainly there were attached ppl in college not looking for new penis. It was great to mainly be around under 25s.
 

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We went to college around the same time.A lot of the trends that were emerging in the early to mid 2000s are the norm now. People were sending messages on instant messenger services back then, which was a precursor to texting. Dating websites were a thing back when we were in college Those just evolved into the swipe apps. On dating websites, women were getting bombarded with messages 15-20 years ago too. Cell phones became a thing around 2003.

The best thing about being in college was the campus & everyone being unmarried. Certainly there were attached ppl in college not looking for new penis. It was great to mainly be around under 25s.
Online dating would have been embarrassing and extremely unpopular when I was in college (2005-2009). Text messaging still cost money and you had to be a college student to be on Facebook.

I split everything into pre-tinder and post-tinder. That was the gamechanger that made online dating relatively fun and normalized, as well as destroyed night game.
 

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Online dating would have been embarrassing and extremely unpopular when I was in college (2005-2009). Text messaging still cost money and you had to be a college student to be on Facebook.
Facebook opened to the general public in September 2006.

It is difficult to pinpoint when dating websites became de-stigmatized. I remember driving to school one morning in high school in 2000 & hearing a radio segment about de-stigmatizing. When I was in college (2001-2005), it would have been weird for a college student to be on a dating website. In the general public, dating websites were de-stigmatized by 2005.


I split everything into pre-tinder and post-tinder. That was the gamechanger that made online dating relatively fun and normalized, as well as destroyed night game.
Tinder achieved adoption & normalcy within 18-24 months of launch that online dating websites couldn’t achieve for 17 years from 1995 (when Match.com launched) to 2012 (when Tinder launched).

Night game is actually more important for post college people than for undergrads. Most undergrads can’t even get into bars until some point in their junior years when more than half of college is over.
 

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Facebook opened to the general public in September 2006.

yes, but myspace was still preferred at that point and facebook itself was fairly new.

It is difficult to pinpoint when dating websites became de-stigmatized. I remember driving to school one morning in high school in 2000 & hearing a radio segment about de-stigmatizing. When I was in college (2001-2005), it would have been weird for a college student to be on a dating website. In the general public, dating websites were de-stigmatized by 2005.

I think it was around 2015 when it became totally destigmatized. I remember going to bars with women and they would all just meet up with their tinder match afterwards instead of looking for guys in the club around that time. I also noticed marked reduction in outcomes for me around then, including a breakup with a girl that could not believe she got me at first and found me easily replaceable by the end.

Tinder achieved adoption & normalcy within 18-24 months of launch that online dating websites couldn’t achieve for 17 years from 1995 (when Match.com launched) to 2012 (when Tinder launched).

yup

Night game is actually more important for post college people than for undergrads. Most undergrads can’t even get into bars until some point in their junior years when more than half of college is over.

Frat parties still count as night game, but I was well out of college when Tinder hit the market and yes it ruined night game. Places like Vegas still have regular night game.
 

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Night game is actually more important for post college people than for undergrads. Most undergrads can’t even get into bars until some point in their junior years when more than half of college is over.
Frat parties still count as night game, but I was well out of college when Tinder hit the market and yes it ruined night game. Places like Vegas still have regular night game.
I would count non-Greek affiliated off campus private residence parties (house or apartment) as night game. Frat parties could be argued as social circle or night game. Certain fraternities and certain sororities align.
 

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I would count non-Greek affiliated off campus private residence parties (house or apartment) as night game. Frat parties could be argued as social circle or night game. Certain fraternities and certain sororities align.
yes, if you're in the frat. There are a lot of outsiders invited though, including myself. I often knew no one there except one or two ppl. Ditto non-greek and dorm parties for sure.
 

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yes, if you're in the frat. There are a lot of outsiders invited though, including myself. I often knew no one there except one or two ppl. Ditto non-greek and dorm parties for sure.
That shvt wouldn’t fly at my fraternity. I think the only outsiders at mine were ones that were planning to rush, the surprise football player drop ins, and guys that knew literally everyone in the fraternity.
 

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yes, if you're in the frat. There are a lot of outsiders invited though, including myself. I often knew no one there except one or two ppl. Ditto non-greek and dorm parties for sure.
That shvt wouldn’t fly at my fraternity. I think the only outsiders at mine were ones that were planning to rush, the surprise football player drop ins, and guys that knew literally everyone in the fraternity.
At the frats at my university, the only outside males would typically be the first weeks in the school year who were planning to rush. Non-Greek affiliated women could show up to fraternity parties.

I wasn't part of a fraternity so my focus was on random apartment complex parties. That was definitely night game as I might have known someone from a class hosting the party but those parties were mainly strangers.
 

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That shvt wouldn’t fly at my fraternity. I think the only outsiders at mine were ones that were planning to rush, the surprise football player drop ins, and guys that knew literally everyone in the fraternity.
I knew some rugby ppl, who knew the frat ppl, in fact it was heavily comingled
 
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