It's just something I've been on married men's cases forever. The other thread about plate spinning ties into it. When men commit and get married, they're basically doubling down on commiting to a woman. And commiting to women is mostly a sign of a man getting lax in their pursuit of women and improvement of themselves. This is mostly seen in men who believe women to be a treasured asset. I'm not going into the whole historical essence of marriage itself, but simply: getting married is not attuned to how humans behave. Across animal groups, it is very rare for animals to have lifetime partners. Only a few ever do so. Meanwhile, every other animal has multiple sex partners throughout their life (or one and just die from sex). Humans being the most versatile of our species, there is no reason to lock down with just one woman. So when I see yet another wife going out to the bar and slutting it up, I just laugh cause the same ole song keeps being sung.
Viewing my post as kicking is your fault.
I agree with you on principle, but every woman eventually becomes a problem with a man. Even if the woman never cheats or divorces him, they are still a nag. And then they grow old and become sexless.
It's a grim but realistic view, and one that at least guarantees a man stays on the safe side.
The irony is that in order to have a successful marriage a man must first be on the other side of the spectrum. E.g he gotta be a super player. A celebrity like type of man with an absolute abundance of women, so she knows there's plenty of competition for her.
This is again, only 5% of men, maybe less. Most men who pursue marriage do this for the wrong reasons. And even than I agree it's a matter of time before you'll lose frame. You'll become softer and she'll become rougher. A man craves stability while women crave uncertainty. At some point the table might turn , man let's his guard down and even lose his ability to pull new poosy. Then you are fecked anyway.
Only part I will disagree with is when you say "her looks don't even matter that much." You need a woman who is nice to look at. No, she doesn't need to be a HB 9 or 10, but she needs to be at least in the 7 range. If not, expect extreme boredom out of yourself with her in short order. In that case, it may be you that gets the itch to step outside the relationship rather than her. That also leads to unhappiness even if this hypothetical woman (who I question whether she really exists) has "perfect" behavior.
I specifically said looks don't matter because I've seen plenty of times that less attractive women tend to be good women, they are just overlooked by the majority of men. Similarly like the good but less attractive dude is overlooked by most women. One of my friends is rather unattractive, but I I wouldn't think twice to let him marry a woman close to me. He is the definition of a good but unattractive man, yet stil on a yearslong dryspell
I have a weakness for hot women( who doesn't?), but sometimes I look back at the women I rejected only to realize they were probably a better fit for me. As the years went by my bar lowered. 15 years ago a hb7/6 was a 7 /6 for a reason, right? Now I see the same type of woman she is suddenly a 7/8. Peace of mind is also something extremely valuable.
I do respect men who have a less attractive woman but have peace of mind. Maybe it's just me having some GIG syndrome.
I agree though, that the women who I viewed as lower SMV than me never got me rock hard. Was more like pity fecking them. But again, I sometimes wonder if this is someting that's off about me. Is life all about being rockhard? And is a rock hard D worth the rock hard head aches? I think alotta men would benefit from looking for GOOD woman rather than Bad byitches.
