Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
GENTLEMEN here we have the typical egocentrical male who only thinks about gaining something in return of a favor...Originally posted by hitmanchronicles
Just say "only if we do body shot".
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
OMG gonna use this line....that's sooo smooth my man!Originally posted by hitmanchronicles
Baby, nothing is free in this world.... well maybe except for my love.
:crackup:Originally posted by LoveBOT
OMG gonna use this line....that's sooo smooth my man!
Sounds prefabricated. I wouldnt use it except on your girl.Originally posted by LoveBOT
OMG gonna use this line....that's sooo smooth my man!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Any girls who asks you for a drink does not want to get to know you. She just wants to use you. Think about this if a girl really wanted to know you she would should her interest other than saying "hey can you buy me a drink?" ....Originally posted by iHatePants
Here's a question I have about this:
How can you tell a girl who asks you for a drink that she actually wants to get to know you from a girl who simply is broke so she's takes advantage of you just so she can score a free drink?
I've seen girls who come up to my firends and tell them BS and ask for a drink and then once they get it they go back to talk to thier friends at the other end of the bar.