melancholy
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Argh this is frustrating but I'm at Day 9 now. Testosterone levels peaking. :crazy:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No Fap Challenge Progress
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just thought Id chime in here since i have some experience w "nofap"lol. Its a good idea to mentally abstain as well, and actually "transmute" the sexual energy. This can be done a multitude of ways(exercise, meditation, etc) and will lead to even better results. Abstaining not only physically from masturbation/porn but also mentally is really what makes this very potent. Theres a reason why in a lot of spiritual traditions mental/physical abtaining is considered a prerequisite for growth, because it can bring you much higher energy and change you as a person in great ways. But it has to be subliminated and the mental abstaining has to be there as well or else its pretty worthless. So that would mean no fantasizing, etc and when you do feel an urge workout, meditate, work on something, etc. I went for 3 months last summer of doing it this way and it had some enormous effects. I had tried a few months prior to that but was still fantasizing, etc and not meditatiing and it wasnt the same. I havent read the whole thread so dont know if this aspect has been covered or not so just thought Id share my experience and what Ive read on a lot of forums of guys "retaining" . good luck.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
3 days so far, it's kind of tough but I will resist my urges lol
matt428carr
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Doing Great!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
melancholy
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compleks said:
Untrue. I am proud to say I'm on Day 13 now. There was a LOT of temptation but I mostly keep it in check by keeping myself busy and being outgoing. Still going strong...
Eternal_water
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Well I'm in day 8. Getting laid is still something I've yet to achieve, ever.compleks said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
melancholy
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Day 15! More than two weeks of this ****...
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
TheMonkeyKing
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OK. Fine.
Day 1....
Day 1....
matt428carr
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Day 9... Hanging in there
3rd week.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 3
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Eternal_water
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double figure day 10
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
2 days clean..
TheMonkeyKing
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Back on day one....
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Just wacked off good, ffsshshhh fsshshhh so good, sooo lonngg gayboys!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.