melancholy
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Argh this is frustrating but I'm at Day 9 now. Testosterone levels peaking. :crazy:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No Fap Challenge Progress
- Thread starter Mr.SomeoneElse
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Just thought Id chime in here since i have some experience w "nofap"lol. Its a good idea to mentally abstain as well, and actually "transmute" the sexual energy. This can be done a multitude of ways(exercise, meditation, etc) and will lead to even better results. Abstaining not only physically from masturbation/porn but also mentally is really what makes this very potent. Theres a reason why in a lot of spiritual traditions mental/physical abtaining is considered a prerequisite for growth, because it can bring you much higher energy and change you as a person in great ways. But it has to be subliminated and the mental abstaining has to be there as well or else its pretty worthless. So that would mean no fantasizing, etc and when you do feel an urge workout, meditate, work on something, etc. I went for 3 months last summer of doing it this way and it had some enormous effects. I had tried a few months prior to that but was still fantasizing, etc and not meditatiing and it wasnt the same. I havent read the whole thread so dont know if this aspect has been covered or not so just thought Id share my experience and what Ive read on a lot of forums of guys "retaining" . good luck.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
3 days so far, it's kind of tough but I will resist my urges lol
matt428carr
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Doing Great!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
melancholy
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compleks said:
Untrue. I am proud to say I'm on Day 13 now. There was a LOT of temptation but I mostly keep it in check by keeping myself busy and being outgoing. Still going strong...
Eternal_water
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Well I'm in day 8. Getting laid is still something I've yet to achieve, ever.compleks said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
melancholy
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Day 15! More than two weeks of this ****...
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
TheMonkeyKing
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OK. Fine.
Day 1....
Day 1....
matt428carr
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Day 9... Hanging in there
3rd week.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 3
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Eternal_water
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double figure day 10
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
2 days clean..
TheMonkeyKing
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Back on day one....
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Just wacked off good, ffsshshhh fsshshhh so good, sooo lonngg gayboys!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.