melancholy
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Argh this is frustrating but I'm at Day 9 now. Testosterone levels peaking. :crazy:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No Fap Challenge Progress
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Just thought Id chime in here since i have some experience w "nofap"lol. Its a good idea to mentally abstain as well, and actually "transmute" the sexual energy. This can be done a multitude of ways(exercise, meditation, etc) and will lead to even better results. Abstaining not only physically from masturbation/porn but also mentally is really what makes this very potent. Theres a reason why in a lot of spiritual traditions mental/physical abtaining is considered a prerequisite for growth, because it can bring you much higher energy and change you as a person in great ways. But it has to be subliminated and the mental abstaining has to be there as well or else its pretty worthless. So that would mean no fantasizing, etc and when you do feel an urge workout, meditate, work on something, etc. I went for 3 months last summer of doing it this way and it had some enormous effects. I had tried a few months prior to that but was still fantasizing, etc and not meditatiing and it wasnt the same. I havent read the whole thread so dont know if this aspect has been covered or not so just thought Id share my experience and what Ive read on a lot of forums of guys "retaining" . good luck.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
3 days so far, it's kind of tough but I will resist my urges lol
matt428carr
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Doing Great!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
melancholy
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compleks said:
Untrue. I am proud to say I'm on Day 13 now. There was a LOT of temptation but I mostly keep it in check by keeping myself busy and being outgoing. Still going strong...
Eternal_water
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Well I'm in day 8. Getting laid is still something I've yet to achieve, ever.compleks said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
melancholy
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Day 15! More than two weeks of this ****...
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
TheMonkeyKing
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OK. Fine.
Day 1....
Day 1....
matt428carr
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Day 9... Hanging in there
3rd week.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 3
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Eternal_water
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double figure day 10
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
2 days clean..
TheMonkeyKing
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Back on day one....
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Just wacked off good, ffsshshhh fsshshhh so good, sooo lonngg gayboys!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.