melancholy
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 2, 2014
- Messages
- 18
- Reaction score
- 0
Argh this is frustrating but I'm at Day 9 now. Testosterone levels peaking. :crazy:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No Fap Challenge Progress
- Thread starter Mr.SomeoneElse
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Just thought Id chime in here since i have some experience w "nofap"lol. Its a good idea to mentally abstain as well, and actually "transmute" the sexual energy. This can be done a multitude of ways(exercise, meditation, etc) and will lead to even better results. Abstaining not only physically from masturbation/porn but also mentally is really what makes this very potent. Theres a reason why in a lot of spiritual traditions mental/physical abtaining is considered a prerequisite for growth, because it can bring you much higher energy and change you as a person in great ways. But it has to be subliminated and the mental abstaining has to be there as well or else its pretty worthless. So that would mean no fantasizing, etc and when you do feel an urge workout, meditate, work on something, etc. I went for 3 months last summer of doing it this way and it had some enormous effects. I had tried a few months prior to that but was still fantasizing, etc and not meditatiing and it wasnt the same. I havent read the whole thread so dont know if this aspect has been covered or not so just thought Id share my experience and what Ive read on a lot of forums of guys "retaining" . good luck.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
3 days so far, it's kind of tough but I will resist my urges lol
matt428carr
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 22, 2007
- Messages
- 16
- Reaction score
- 0
Doing Great!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
I was a pretty heavy fapper (every day for years, sometimes twice to porn) and this is the first time in years I've stopped for any length of time. Its day 6 for me and I feel great! Way more energy, and way more confident in everything I do. I have also knocked out all forms of porno, really being careful to not look at anything that even resembles it. I haven't really been the type to work out much, but I almost crave it now for some reason(must be testosterone), so thats next. I will also say that I seem to be putting off some sort of vibe or something, because I'm getting more attention from women and more respect or something from men. I'm not super horny at all and haven't been since I started, but I wonder if this will change? Seems as long as I stay away from the porn, I'm good.
I haven't ever had too much of an issue getting laid, but as I have gotten older(44), my game has slipped. I don't currently have a girlfriend or buddy, as I have been very busy with my career and school. I think the no-fap idea may be just the thing to restart my sex life, but I think it will do more than that in all aspects(seems to be at this point).
Wish me luck!
melancholy
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 2, 2014
- Messages
- 18
- Reaction score
- 0
compleks said:
Untrue. I am proud to say I'm on Day 13 now. There was a LOT of temptation but I mostly keep it in check by keeping myself busy and being outgoing. Still going strong...
Eternal_water
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 12, 2012
- Messages
- 899
- Reaction score
- 51
Well I'm in day 8. Getting laid is still something I've yet to achieve, ever.compleks said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
melancholy
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 2, 2014
- Messages
- 18
- Reaction score
- 0
Day 15! More than two weeks of this ****...
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
I'm getting mad urges to kino excessively during dates....
TheMonkeyKing
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 20, 2014
- Messages
- 2,327
- Reaction score
- 1,419
OK. Fine.
Day 1....
Day 1....
matt428carr
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 22, 2007
- Messages
- 16
- Reaction score
- 0
Day 9... Hanging in there
3rd week.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
I think I've successfully gotten over the withdrawal symptoms. I no longer have the urge to grab my tool; it's no longer calling out to me to do it. However, outside stimulus and alcohol tend to amplify the itch.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 3
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Eternal_water
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 12, 2012
- Messages
- 899
- Reaction score
- 51
double figure day 10
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
2 days clean..
TheMonkeyKing
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 20, 2014
- Messages
- 2,327
- Reaction score
- 1,419
Back on day one....
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
Just had a good training sesh. Less inclined to spank the monkey.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Just wacked off good, ffsshshhh fsshshhh so good, sooo lonngg gayboys!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.