"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Someone has to keep you idiots from letting this place turn into the training ground for the next right wing nutball terrorist. You let white supremacist propaganda stay up undeleted, and that's funny and all, but don't you think they go through the internet records of the nutballs who get arrested? What would it do to this place if we were the site that radicalized the next mass murderer? I want to be the one pointing out these things before they happen. You can take that as hatred if you want, but I think of it as constructive criticism.
You have to be trolling at this point in your sosuave career.

Sure, this forum is mostly conservative, but men a generally conservative.

And you always go back to the same, tired platitude about right-wing extremists. You've been doing it for years.

Sosuave has never attracted that type of crowd and you know it. Go drink a guiness, pick your garden and seethe at the thought of America being great for 4 more years
 

Who Dares Win

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Someone has to keep you idiots from letting this place turn into the training ground for the next right wing nutball terrorist. You let white supremacist propaganda stay up undeleted, and that's funny and all, but don't you think they go through the internet records of the nutballs who get arrested? What would it do to this place if we were the site that radicalized the next mass murderer? I want to be the one pointing out these things before they happen. You can take that as hatred if you want, but I think of it as constructive criticism.
So much toxic masculinity right? and I heard they even play videogames like call of duty and grand theft auto.
 

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hope they do a good job this forum has grown alot
Absolutely for sure. I can remember in the last probably five years they were 180,000 members. The site administrator at one point cut out about half of those down to about 60,000. Due to inactivity I believe. Now we are back up around 96,000.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Strongly suggest the following, to make it an overall balanced mod team,

1. ALAN - motivator/dominant personality.
2. Atom Smasher - unknown profile, hangs somewhere between, a doer/motivator/nerd but a dominant.
3. Igetit, logicallefty and another fella that's seldom around (forgot his name but he's a bpd loverboy) - expressives/passive personality.
4. Baby Bill - intellectual/passive personality.
5. Des, Amante and another one more fella I forgot his name but stalks the forum - Doers/Dominant personality.

You guys only need 1 motivator per team (which u hv in Alan) and the REST should ideally be spread out equally to maintain balance.

From the above list, it's the intellectual personality that's lacking.

So there's zekko, samspade and a couple more nerds around that should consider signing up.

BTW TyTe u r an intellectual....
 

logicallefty

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Strongly suggest the following, to make it an overall balanced mod team,

1. ALAN - motivator/dominant personality.
2. Atom Smasher - unknown profile, hangs somewhere between, a doer/motivator/nerd but a dominant.
3. Igetit, logicallefty and another fella that's seldom around (forgot his name but he's a bpd loverboy) - expressives/passive personality.
4. Baby Bill - intellectual/passive personality.
5. Des, Amante and another one more fella I forgot his name but stalks the forum - Doers/Dominant personality.

You guys only need 1 motivator per team (which u hv in Alan) and the REST should ideally be spread out equally to maintain balance.

From the above list, it's the intellectual personality that's lacking.

So there's zekko, samspade and a couple more nerds around that should consider signing up.

BTW TyTe u r an intellectual....
@Atom Smasher Was definitely our motivator. No question about that. Teamwork is definitely important for us. We try to enforce rules the same and make group decisions when it comes to banning people. Any new addition to our team is going to have their post history reviewed and we will also review how many times they have been warned or temporarily banned. The ideal candidate will not have a history of getting into bickering matches with people. Those of us above who you say have a passive personality, Keep in mind that being a moderator requires some tact and discretion. There are things we might want to say on the public forum but we practice restraint because that’s part of our job.
 

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I suggest corrector. His name alone should get him a spot. He corrects.
 

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3. Igetit, logicallefty and another fella that's seldom around (forgot his name but he's a bpd loverboy) - expressives/passive personality.
I'm actually around A LOT MORE than people may realize. I just spend like 95% of my time in the background....usually replying to private messages. I probably have more PM posts than regular ones,like 3 times as many.

Another thing is,I don't like to OVER-moderate. I don't believe in jumping on members for every little infraction.

I like to let people talk,have free expression.....share different points of view,agree or disagree,and challenge each other. It's only if it gets to name-calling,insults,and personal attacks that I'd prefer to step in.


Good luck to those of you who decide to throw your hats in the ring to be a moderator. And to whoever is selected,I can't wait til the first time you log in here after not having been here for a day or two,only to see random members calling you "stupid","unfair",or accusing you of being on a power trip because "so and so" got banned....when you YOURSELF just found out they got banned cause you hadn't been here all day.


:lol:


But hey.....it comes with the territory.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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And you always go back to the same, tired platitude about right-wing extremists. You've been doing it for years.

Sosuave has never attracted that type of crowd and you know it.
We're probably already being watched and catalogued as a hate speech site. There are several research projects underway to track sites like these. Asking for moderators to work for free, while they run the chance of being associated with this place whenever the sh1t does hit the fan, well that's just irresponsible.

Sosuave search for "the jews"

 
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We're probably already being watched and catalogued as a hate speech site. There are several research projects underway to track sites like these. Asking for moderators to work for free, while they run the chance of being associated with this place whenever the sh1t does hit the fan, well that's just irresponsible.

Sosuave search for "the jews"

Coming to terms with the state of the sexual market place is enough to make any man angry. We all know that, brother.

But we have a solid bunch of regulars that help them through it. You're one of them. I've been kicking around for 20 years and I've never seen anyone be overly outrageous
 

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We're probably already being watched and catalogued as a hate speech site. There are several research projects underway to track sites like these. Asking for moderators to work for free, while they run the chance of being associated with this place whenever the sh1t does hit the fan, well that's just irresponsible.

Sosuave search for "the jews"

Not a bad collection of Moderator locked threads, ones containing banned posters, and ancient ones to boot. Peddle conspiracy on forums that promote it, we kick that trash to the curb here…
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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logicallefty

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Not a bad collection of Moderator locked threads, ones containing banned posters, and ancient ones to boot. Peddle conspiracy on forums that promote it, we kick that trash to the curb here…
Good Google search too. lots of ways to make Google find anything you want with quotes, switches, etc.
 

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Coming to terms with the state of the sexual market place is enough to make any man angry. We all know that, brother.

But we have a solid bunch of regulars that help them through it. You're one of them. I've been kicking around for 20 years and I've never seen anyone be overly outrageous
Damn, you just saw right through to what he was really expressing? Tyte the empath.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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