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user43770
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I was going to say the exact same thing
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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user43770
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You have to be trolling at this point in your sosuave career.
Sure, this forum is mostly conservative, but men a generally conservative.
And you always go back to the same, tired platitude about right-wing extremists. You've been doing it for years.
Sosuave has never attracted that type of crowd and you know it. Go drink a guiness, pick your garden and seethe at the thought of America being great for 4 more years
Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
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So much toxic masculinity right? and I heard they even play videogames like call of duty and grand theft auto.
logicallefty
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Absolutely for sure. I can remember in the last probably five years they were 180,000 members. The site administrator at one point cut out about half of those down to about 60,000. Due to inactivity I believe. Now we are back up around 96,000.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Strongly suggest the following, to make it an overall balanced mod team,
1. ALAN - motivator/dominant personality.
2. Atom Smasher - unknown profile, hangs somewhere between, a doer/motivator/nerd but a dominant.
3. Igetit, logicallefty and another fella that's seldom around (forgot his name but he's a bpd loverboy) - expressives/passive personality.
4. Baby Bill - intellectual/passive personality.
5. Des, Amante and another one more fella I forgot his name but stalks the forum - Doers/Dominant personality.
You guys only need 1 motivator per team (which u hv in Alan) and the REST should ideally be spread out equally to maintain balance.
From the above list, it's the intellectual personality that's lacking.
So there's zekko, samspade and a couple more nerds around that should consider signing up.
BTW TyTe u r an intellectual....
1. ALAN - motivator/dominant personality.
2. Atom Smasher - unknown profile, hangs somewhere between, a doer/motivator/nerd but a dominant.
3. Igetit, logicallefty and another fella that's seldom around (forgot his name but he's a bpd loverboy) - expressives/passive personality.
4. Baby Bill - intellectual/passive personality.
5. Des, Amante and another one more fella I forgot his name but stalks the forum - Doers/Dominant personality.
You guys only need 1 motivator per team (which u hv in Alan) and the REST should ideally be spread out equally to maintain balance.
From the above list, it's the intellectual personality that's lacking.
So there's zekko, samspade and a couple more nerds around that should consider signing up.
BTW TyTe u r an intellectual....
logicallefty
Moderator
@Atom Smasher Was definitely our motivator. No question about that. Teamwork is definitely important for us. We try to enforce rules the same and make group decisions when it comes to banning people. Any new addition to our team is going to have their post history reviewed and we will also review how many times they have been warned or temporarily banned. The ideal candidate will not have a history of getting into bickering matches with people. Those of us above who you say have a passive personality, Keep in mind that being a moderator requires some tact and discretion. There are things we might want to say on the public forum but we practice restraint because that’s part of our job.
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Master Don Juan
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I suggest Mike32ct, we need a balanced guy that is as clever as civilized.
7onriverI f
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I suggest corrector. His name alone should get him a spot. He corrects.
Igetit!
Moderator
I'm actually around A LOT MORE than people may realize. I just spend like 95% of my time in the background....usually replying to private messages. I probably have more PM posts than regular ones,like 3 times as many.
Another thing is,I don't like to OVER-moderate. I don't believe in jumping on members for every little infraction.
I like to let people talk,have free expression.....share different points of view,agree or disagree,and challenge each other. It's only if it gets to name-calling,insults,and personal attacks that I'd prefer to step in.
Good luck to those of you who decide to throw your hats in the ring to be a moderator. And to whoever is selected,I can't wait til the first time you log in here after not having been here for a day or two,only to see random members calling you "stupid","unfair",or accusing you of being on a power trip because "so and so" got banned....when you YOURSELF just found out they got banned cause you hadn't been here all day.
But hey.....it comes with the territory.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
We're probably already being watched and catalogued as a hate speech site. There are several research projects underway to track sites like these. Asking for moderators to work for free, while they run the chance of being associated with this place whenever the sh1t does hit the fan, well that's just irresponsible.
Sosuave search for "the jews"
Mike32ct
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Thank you.
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user43770
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I've been around this forum for 20 years and I couldn't think of a better person.
Samspade a close second.
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user43770
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Coming to terms with the state of the sexual market place is enough to make any man angry. We all know that, brother.
But we have a solid bunch of regulars that help them through it. You're one of them. I've been kicking around for 20 years and I've never seen anyone be overly outrageous
Not a bad collection of Moderator locked threads, ones containing banned posters, and ancient ones to boot. Peddle conspiracy on forums that promote it, we kick that trash to the curb here…
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
logicallefty
Moderator
Good Google search too. lots of ways to make Google find anything you want with quotes, switches, etc.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
Damn, you just saw right through to what he was really expressing? Tyte the empath.
backseatjuan
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You kids are hyperactive.
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user43770
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You see right through my troll persona, brother. Not sure how
Black Widow Void
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I'm too combative to those I view as "bully like" toward new members (and I'm comfortable being this way) . I wouldn't be a good fit.
However, Zekko seems respected and a lot more laid back (in a good way) .
I'd like to nominate Zekko.
However, Zekko seems respected and a lot more laid back (in a good way) .
I'd like to nominate Zekko.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.