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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nasty break up! please help im a mess
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Murk
Master Don Juan
So true. I’m yet to meet a BPD chick, but somehow every guy here’s ex is one.
Time to take accountability for being a sh1t boyfriend/weak man, guys.
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Rapport101
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You aren’t wrong. If you are dating a girl with bpd and you stay with her up until she discards you. You were a weak man.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Murk
Master Don Juan
Oh come LA - you seriously think every guy here is the good guy while it’s the crazy girl that f’d them over.
I’ve been guilty myself of viewing a relationship biasedly and later realising how sh1t I was. Sometimes men make women go a little nuts, doesn’t automatically make the girl BPD. That’s ridiculous.
I’ve been guilty myself of viewing a relationship biasedly and later realising how sh1t I was. Sometimes men make women go a little nuts, doesn’t automatically make the girl BPD. That’s ridiculous.
A reason is an explanation 4 why something is the way it is, with everyone involved taking accountability for their part in a situation.
An excuse is an explanation 4 why something is the way it is, that always involves the blame being put on someone else; BPD ex girlfriend.
Merely stating a fact. Not an opinion.
Murk
Master Don Juan
I'm not calling anyone a liar, I genuinely believe all you guys think your Ex was BPD.
I just think you're wrong/misguided.
Murk
Master Don Juan
You don’t have the answers SWAY!
Ok ok, I’m just guessing, I can’t truly know what happened in anyone’s individual relationships. What I do know is I have not encountered any BPD chicks, neither have my friends. Somehow 75% of the guys here have. I’m making an educated guess. Very open to the fact I’m completely wrong, your protestation would imply you’re said BPD ex man. God speed.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
And every guy has Asperger's.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Murk
Master Don Juan
I don't get your analogy but Aldi is the best place ever. £20 shopping there will last me 2 weeks.
Life derailed by a BPD? Yep, I've been there as have many others here. The cure is NC and working out why she could mesmerise and manipulate you. I really do sympathise though as I can recall being right where you are. Giving it too you straight.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
Even though a psychiatrist told me I didn't?
I should listen to the experts of SoSuave.net?
DEEZEDBRAH
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loses job and girl jumps on the next ****. Classic!
I've never heard women and their hypergamy to dare do such a thing.
I've never heard women and their hypergamy to dare do such a thing.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DEEZEDBRAH
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its called hit and run son. You treat her like a crash test dummy only you nut on her face upon final impact