Nasty break up! please help im a mess

[Spaz]

No worries bro.

Every guy in here labels every girl "BPD" if they don't get what they want from her.

That way the guys reputation is still in tact if she doesn't act accordingly. Makes her seem crazy, makes him look good.

Hahaha

 

[Murk]

No worries bro.

Every guy in here labels every girl "BPD" if they don't get what they want from her.

That way the guys reputation is still in tact if she doesn't act accordingly. Makes her seem crazy, makes him look good.

So true. I’m yet to meet a BPD chick, but somehow every guy here’s ex is one.

Time to take accountability for being a sh1t boyfriend/weak man, guys.

 

[Spaz]

So true. I’m yet to meet a BPD chick, but somehow every guy here’s ex is one.

Time to take accountability for being a sh1t boyfriend/weak man, guys.

Hahaha

 

[Rapport101]

So true. I’m yet to meet a BPD chick, but somehow every guy here’s ex is one.

Time to take accountability for being a sh1t boyfriend/weak man, guys.

You aren’t wrong. If you are dating a girl with bpd and you stay with her up until she discards you. You were a weak man.

 

[Spaz]

Discarded by a BPD chick and somehow ended up in SS.

Is that a default setting ?

I've yet to meet a BPD chick. Every chick seems the same to me, only difference is the intensity of drama.

 

[Murk]

Oh come LA - you seriously think every guy here is the good guy while it’s the crazy girl that f’d them over.

I’ve been guilty myself of viewing a relationship biasedly and later realising how sh1t I was. Sometimes men make women go a little nuts, doesn’t automatically make the girl BPD. That’s ridiculous.

 

[Spaz]

A reason to avoid holding an opinion on the matter, not to have one.

A reason is an explanation 4 why something is the way it is, with everyone involved taking accountability for their part in a situation.

An excuse is an explanation 4 why something is the way it is, that always involves the blame being put on someone else; BPD ex girlfriend.

Merely stating a fact. Not an opinion.

 

[Murk]

Never said that, in fact many of the men here are highly narcissistic or codependent. However, that doesn't mean they are lying or wrong about what they experienced.

I'm not calling anyone a liar, I genuinely believe all you guys think your Ex was BPD.

I just think you're wrong/misguided.

 

[Murk]

Not presumptuous at all

You don’t have the answers SWAY!

Ok ok, I’m just guessing, I can’t truly know what happened in anyone’s individual relationships. What I do know is I have not encountered any BPD chicks, neither have my friends. Somehow 75% of the guys here have. I’m making an educated guess. Very open to the fact I’m completely wrong, your protestation would imply you’re said BPD ex man. God speed.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

No worries bro.

Every guy in here labels every girl "BPD" if they don't get what they want from her.

That way the guys reputation is still in tact if she doesn't act accordingly. Makes her seem crazy, makes him look good.

And every guy has Asperger's.

 

[wolf]

This site is riddled with Narcissists and Codependents. Is it any wonder why so many guys here have had dealings with a BPD?

It' not Rocket Science!

 

[Murk]

Bpd is sort of like the sasquatch. In so much as you have a few internet enthusiasts that insist it exists. And if you have a good drink, squint your eyes real hard, you can sort of even see what they're getting at. You might even decide to be super precatious when travelling in the woods for fear of encountering the beast.

But then people are making regular sightings of the sasquatch coming out of Aldi supermarket and getting into a vehicle. At which point you need to start deciding how much impact the sasquatch is going to have on your own perception of everyday life.

I don't get your analogy but Aldi is the best place ever. £20 shopping there will last me 2 weeks.

 

[Twodogs]

Life derailed by a BPD? Yep, I've been there as have many others here. The cure is NC and working out why she could mesmerise and manipulate you. I really do sympathise though as I can recall being right where you are. Giving it too you straight.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Just you and bigdave

Even though a psychiatrist told me I didn't?

I should listen to the experts of SoSuave.net?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

loses job and girl jumps on the next ****. Classic!

I've never heard women and their hypergamy to dare do such a thing.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Avoidance or smash & dash are the only real viable options when dealing with severely toxic women.

its called hit and run son. You treat her like a crash test dummy only you nut on her face upon final impact