"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My Cousin...
- Thread starter ReZin
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Plus she is your freaking cousin. Don't discount my advice just because I disagree with your view on incest. Just because you are happy fcking a relative doesn't mean she is! Don't take things like that as an IOI, it's just that she is confortable with you because you are FAMLY. It's an IOI in the same line of 'hey your my cousin I like you as a cousin' not 'let's fck'. Reguadless of whether or not incest is right (it's not) you don't have a chance because she probably doesn't think it is, and she has a god damn boyfriend. She is a girl, she really cares what people think about her, there is no way she is going to get with her cousin out of fear of what people might think. Oh and she has a boyfriend, did I mention that?
Yep.
Oh and if you are a troll, at least you are pretty amusing
Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
YoungSir4sho
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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me too.YoungSir4sho said:
Understandable...lol.YoungSir4sho said:
On a side note, I do find the psychological aspect in the whole matter interesting. It is interesting to me how sometimes the male innate desire for a female companion that he believes he has a connection with can override something as strong as societal influence and basic logic. Another example of this besides the cousin thing (which you find all over, check out cousincouples.com if you want another example of this) is oneitis.
Humans are very intriguing things.
Let's just stay away from Roofies, ok?SamePendo said:
Seriously though, look at it this way. I'll assume you have a sibling of some sort. Say, for example, someday you have a daughter. Your sibling has a son. At some point, you find out your nephew is banging your daughter. Would you not go fvcking ape****?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
you're a pretty sick guy if you really want to get with one of your family members. i dont care what kind of excuse you have, i know its ok in some societies, but this is not one of them. you should take a good look at yourself and maybe seek some kind of couseling cuz you really need it. its not normal for one to fall for their cousins... its just a line we instinctively do not cross, and for a person to do so, there must be some kind of psychological dysfunction.ReZin said:
When you're a teenager, your female cousins are there, they're inclined to be friendly, they trust you, and you spend alot of time in close quarters with them. It's not all that uncommon. When I was about 13-16 one of the easiest occasions to hook up was at big family gatherings with distant 'cousins' who weren't actually related to me by blood.
Just get out more, man. Getting over your cousin shouldn't be that different from getting over any other girl.