"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My Cousin...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Plus she is your freaking cousin. Don't discount my advice just because I disagree with your view on incest. Just because you are happy fcking a relative doesn't mean she is! Don't take things like that as an IOI, it's just that she is confortable with you because you are FAMLY. It's an IOI in the same line of 'hey your my cousin I like you as a cousin' not 'let's fck'. Reguadless of whether or not incest is right (it's not) you don't have a chance because she probably doesn't think it is, and she has a god damn boyfriend. She is a girl, she really cares what people think about her, there is no way she is going to get with her cousin out of fear of what people might think. Oh and she has a boyfriend, did I mention that?
Yep.
Oh and if you are a troll, at least you are pretty amusing
Bonafide
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
YoungSir4sho
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me too.YoungSir4sho said:
Understandable...lol.YoungSir4sho said:
On a side note, I do find the psychological aspect in the whole matter interesting. It is interesting to me how sometimes the male innate desire for a female companion that he believes he has a connection with can override something as strong as societal influence and basic logic. Another example of this besides the cousin thing (which you find all over, check out cousincouples.com if you want another example of this) is oneitis.
Humans are very intriguing things.
Let's just stay away from Roofies, ok?SamePendo said:
Seriously though, look at it this way. I'll assume you have a sibling of some sort. Say, for example, someday you have a daughter. Your sibling has a son. At some point, you find out your nephew is banging your daughter. Would you not go fvcking ape****?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
you're a pretty sick guy if you really want to get with one of your family members. i dont care what kind of excuse you have, i know its ok in some societies, but this is not one of them. you should take a good look at yourself and maybe seek some kind of couseling cuz you really need it. its not normal for one to fall for their cousins... its just a line we instinctively do not cross, and for a person to do so, there must be some kind of psychological dysfunction.ReZin said:
When you're a teenager, your female cousins are there, they're inclined to be friendly, they trust you, and you spend alot of time in close quarters with them. It's not all that uncommon. When I was about 13-16 one of the easiest occasions to hook up was at big family gatherings with distant 'cousins' who weren't actually related to me by blood.
Just get out more, man. Getting over your cousin shouldn't be that different from getting over any other girl.