You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Abort those plans immediately. If her time is limited then why are you going to waste two hours staring at a movie screen? Take her to a lounge or someplace you two can talk and put your moves on her there. movies are horrible first dates.BigEd71 said:i know its not the ideal date, but with our schedules this is what we have to work with
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
J Roc said:Abort those plans immediately. If her time is limited then why are you going to waste two hours staring at a movie screen? Take her to a lounge or someplace you two can talk and put your moves on her there. movies are horrible first dates.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I completely disagree. Watching a good movie together gives you a shared experience, which is a plus. But it's not the best idea for a first date, or for someone you don't know well, because you can't really talk.alpha_ash said:Movie dates kill attraction.
HA! I'm putting this one in the bank.Mike32ct said:If she sits too far away from you on the couch, use this line...
"You can move over (signal to move next to you). I'm not in to 'long distance relationships' lol"
I've only rarely seen couples making out in theaters. Maybe it's because I prefer to go to the matinees - they're cheaper and are less crowded.sageproduct said:I've heard of guys who just kino escalate and make out the whole time at a movie. I don't think I'd ever do that at a theater, and definitely not on a first date with someone I just met. It's different if it's someone in a social circle who you already know though...
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plutoman said:Meh, movies can quickly build sexual tension. I definitely wouldn't consider it cancel-worthy.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134945
Read up on muscleman's journal for examples.
How old are you and her?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.