I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Abort those plans immediately. If her time is limited then why are you going to waste two hours staring at a movie screen? Take her to a lounge or someplace you two can talk and put your moves on her there. movies are horrible first dates.BigEd71 said:i know its not the ideal date, but with our schedules this is what we have to work with
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
J Roc said:Abort those plans immediately. If her time is limited then why are you going to waste two hours staring at a movie screen? Take her to a lounge or someplace you two can talk and put your moves on her there. movies are horrible first dates.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I completely disagree. Watching a good movie together gives you a shared experience, which is a plus. But it's not the best idea for a first date, or for someone you don't know well, because you can't really talk.alpha_ash said:Movie dates kill attraction.
HA! I'm putting this one in the bank.Mike32ct said:If she sits too far away from you on the couch, use this line...
"You can move over (signal to move next to you). I'm not in to 'long distance relationships' lol"
I've only rarely seen couples making out in theaters. Maybe it's because I prefer to go to the matinees - they're cheaper and are less crowded.sageproduct said:I've heard of guys who just kino escalate and make out the whole time at a movie. I don't think I'd ever do that at a theater, and definitely not on a first date with someone I just met. It's different if it's someone in a social circle who you already know though...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Plutoman said:Meh, movies can quickly build sexual tension. I definitely wouldn't consider it cancel-worthy.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134945
Read up on muscleman's journal for examples.
How old are you and her?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.