Mentioning an ex during sex

[mango]

Is it ever appropriate to mention or refer to your ex during sex? In what cases would be okay if at all? What about if your partner doesn't like you to do something because their ex liked to that thing? How would that make you feel?

 

[Iceberg]

It means that if some chick said that to you, she's a sick biotch and needs to be dumped.

Do you even need to ask this question, man? I think you know what to do.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by mango
Is it ever appropriate to mention or refer to your ex during sex? In what cases would be okay if at all? What about if your partner doesn't like you to do something because their ex liked to that thing? How would that make you feel?

I feel you should not mention your ex while dating, during the relationship and especially during sex. Your ex is the past and the past is the past. Focus on your present and future.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Originally posted by mango
Is it ever appropriate to mention or refer to your ex during sex? In what cases would be okay if at all? What about if your partner doesn't like you to do something because their ex liked to that thing? How would that make you feel?

Maybe she just wanted to prolong sex, and buy you another 10 minutes?

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Why would her ex be on her mind during sex!!!!!!!!!! That is an insult, whether she is mentioning something she likes or dislikes. This is highly inappropiate!!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by mango
Is it ever appropriate to mention or refer to your ex during sex? In what cases would be okay if at all? What about if your partner doesn't like you to do something because their ex liked to that thing? How would that make you feel?

Have you done this or has your partner?

 

[mango]

actually my partner has.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I just needed to know who needed a bit of assistance on this. No, it's not appropriate to do this type of thing at such an intimate moment. However, the concern should not be the appropriateness of the action, the question should be why it was done at all.

I could list all of the possible speculations on why she would have done that but again, it would just be speculation. Go to her about this, tell her that it is upsetting to do such a thing; however refrain from accusations or anything that could make her defensive.

Approach her in a manner of wanting to understand why she would do this. It doesn't mean that you need to accept her reason, but you do need to know why.

 

[Unregistered]

Not unless she is saying how much bigger your reproductive organ is.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Unregistered
Not unless she is saying how much bigger your reproductive organ is.

Alright, so there is an exception...

 

[Magico]

Not unless she is saying how much bigger your reproductive organ is.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[mango]

What if it is to say you are doing something that they used to do with their ex? And they didn't want to do it because it made them think about that person?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Never, and I mean NEVER go into any detail about past sexual encounters or relationships or flings or anything even remotely close to disclosing who, what, where, when or how you got after it with someone other than the woman you're involved with at the moment.

This is a rookie mistake and will ruin you with any woman you have even an inkling to becoming involved with long term.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by mango
What if it is to say you are doing something that they used to do with their ex? And they didn't want to do it because it made them think about that person?

It means that they are not yet over their ex. Tread lightly.