"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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man, if I was white I would probably have it way easier

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Boo hoo.

Maybe if you stopped being a b*tch that would help too. Chicks tend to like guys who aren't b*tches.
 

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White people have it easier? Since when? Did I warp back to the 40s?
 
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I'm a white guy and I've never had it easy in the dating game, so stop using race as an excuse for your failings with women.
 
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If your black boast about your 10 incher and act all gangsta rap kool

If your asian boast about your education and computing skills

If your mexican boast about your cooking skills

If your indian boast about your cooking skills also lol



mmmmmmmmm....there ya go sorted!!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Judge nismo sees a case of a male with emotional drawers!

What makes you think White folk have it easier? Race don't f**kin' matter. I'm black and even though I've got an uphill battle, I've seen Whites and other races struggle with women. Improve yourself and quit whining.

Case dismissed. Leave my courtroom.
 

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Iceberg, you had a post a little while back talking about how this site used to be a "brotherhood" with loads of good info, and much less complaining.

It's crap like this that makes me jealous I wasn't here at that point.
 

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Incoming Troll detected.
 

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PDubb75 said:
Iceberg, you had a post a little while back talking about how this site used to be a "brotherhood" with loads of good info, and much less complaining.

It's crap like this that makes me jealous I wasn't here at that point.
There were whiners in the old days too. But yeah, the site had more a "community" feel to it. Or maybe I'm just getting older and losing my patience with the crybabies.

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Incoming Troll detected.
Good point. What was the other thread he started today? "I just realized that I'm ugly"

Very new member + starts attention-seeking threads = troll

Do you think there's an correlation between high schools just starting summer break and the wave of bored teenagers starting troll threads? I do.
 
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What I've never understood is why people who don't like or love themselves expect to be liked and loved by others.

It just doesn't work that way, you have to love yourself before someone else will. People who are constantly putting themselves down, constantly whinging are seen as depressing people to be around and people will generally gravitate away from people with such a poor attitude and weak mentality.

I expect this type of talk from a woman, not a man. Us men can't get our pecs inlarged through surgery, we can't walk around with hair extensions or foundation like women. We have to make use with what we were born with and while we can't change everything there are things we can change.

What the OP needs is simple. He needs more hobbies, he needs to improve his self image which will improve his self esteem and he needs to realise that we all have our faults, but we shouldn't spend our entire lives focusing on them. We should focus on selling our good points to people.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Easier how? You have it easy with your own women, plus there are white girls that will only fvck black dudes. Just ran into one 2 days ago that wouldn't give me the time of day when she saw me in person. She was a solid 9 too.

There's also some evidence that suggests black men are the most sexually attractive of all races (see the recent psychology today study done on why black women are less attractive), possibly because of elevated testosterone levels
 

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Well how do yall game white girls than cause I'm lost. I'm stuck in the rich white suburbs.
 

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If i was black i would get a job eisier in south africa.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
If i was black i would get a job eisier in south africa.
You'd still be jerking your load into your favorite white sock, while crying that Justin Beiber can't be yours.

You'd still be a grammatical infant no matter what color you think you are.

Now, pull your pants up, turn your lid straight, walk with both of your arches flat on the ground then fvck yourself.

Kids. Gotta laugh at 'em.
 
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KarmaSutra said:
You'd still be jerking your load into your favorite white sock, while crying that Justin Beiber can't be yours.

You'd still be a grammatical infant no matter what color you think you are.

Now, pull your pants up, turn your lid straight, walk with both of your arches flat on the ground then fvck yourself.

Kids. Gotta laugh at 'em.
Says the 37 year old who acts like a Virgin. :yes:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SamTheHobit said:
If i was black i would get a job eisier in south africa.
perseverance said:
I'm a white guy and I've never had it easy in the dating game, so stop using race as an excuse for your failings with women.
"Ebony (wanna-be) and Ivory, lived together in perfect harmony..."

I didn't think Paul McCartney could apply to anything.

I was wrong.

You lovebirds enjoy.
 

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Ringleader41 said:
Well how do yall game white girls than cause I'm lost. I'm stuck in the rich white suburbs.
Hey here's an idea. How about you read some articles and tips, FIRST. And THEN post threads whining and complaining?

Because they question that you're asking shows that you've put zero effort into actually reading the information on this site.

Come back in a month. Bye.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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