Good day folks, for the last 3 or 4 months or so I feel like I've lost my vibe, before when I would go out I would get hit on by girls regularly talk to girls etc but recently that hasn't been happening, something i off but can't put my finger on it I haven't changed physically, anyone else experienced this?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Lost my vibe.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Maybe you look sad or worried? try to see what kind of message your face is sending.
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You're lacking self confidence is whats happening. When you're seeking validation, you look around for cues that girls are interested, etc.. and you often dont find it. But when you're in a state of confidence and self assuredness, you look around and see girls glancing at you from every direction.. and even if you're aware that some girls are just noticing you rather than staring, theres always girls taht you dont catch when the're actually checking you out until you end up face to face with them and naturally sht happens.
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
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It happens. Dont overthink it and always keep improving.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Here's some motivation. nothing like a plate cooking for you in panties.. Hopefully you find your confidence back and find a plate you can smash on the regular. one that stays longer than a year lol
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The fart smell mixed with food is ruining the mood though.
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You never mix ass with food.
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Damn bro! This is great
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You could always get back in the mood by jerking off in the back of your mom's car (while she's driving)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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This is the problem many men will face when living the bachelor party lifestyle. Not only will it be detrimental for your physical appearance, there's also the mental issues like these that might appear.
You gotta be smart about it and always keep some women in your rotation. Do you see any women at all right now? I am not gonna lie, I felt something similar recently. It's the clearest sign you can get that you are too much dependent upon women. 3/4 months shouldn't be a huge problem IF you are confident enough and know sooner or later you'll pull a new one.
Even women HB8 and higher go through this occasionally. Its time for some introspection my brother.
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You need therapy.
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Why would *I* need therapy? You are the one who made a post about doing THAT.
Bingo-Player
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Self confidence will be a massive problem and i am facing something similar in my own life
BUT there is a wider issue at play and that is after a decade of heavy social media exposure most people (especially those under 30 ) aren't really sure HOW to act in the real world anymore
This leads to a lot of (unnecessary ) awkwardness and people making themselves appear to be closed off
The good news is most of it can be solved but literally throwing yourself out there , just randomly striking conversations up with people is a great help
I find the worst part is just getting over that first hurdle of breaking the ice and doing an introduction
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What are you talking about?
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Hamurabimbi
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Life is pretty random. Sometimes I can’t buy a smile. Other times I hit gold. I have no explanation.
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Thank you. Hoping it gives the OP some motivation lol.. but judging by alot of these responses, he'll prob not come back lol
We need more data, but we also pass a wall which we are less attractive to younger women.
Giovanni SouthSide
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currently dealin with somewhat similar sh1t of rusting out. just hit 32 last month
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut