Good day folks, for the last 3 or 4 months or so I feel like I've lost my vibe, before when I would go out I would get hit on by girls regularly talk to girls etc but recently that hasn't been happening, something i off but can't put my finger on it I haven't changed physically, anyone else experienced this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lost my vibe.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Maybe you look sad or worried? try to see what kind of message your face is sending.
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You're lacking self confidence is whats happening. When you're seeking validation, you look around for cues that girls are interested, etc.. and you often dont find it. But when you're in a state of confidence and self assuredness, you look around and see girls glancing at you from every direction.. and even if you're aware that some girls are just noticing you rather than staring, theres always girls taht you dont catch when the're actually checking you out until you end up face to face with them and naturally sht happens.
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
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It happens. Dont overthink it and always keep improving.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Here's some motivation. nothing like a plate cooking for you in panties.. Hopefully you find your confidence back and find a plate you can smash on the regular. one that stays longer than a year lol
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The fart smell mixed with food is ruining the mood though.
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You never mix ass with food.
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Damn bro! This is great
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You could always get back in the mood by jerking off in the back of your mom's car (while she's driving)
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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This is the problem many men will face when living the bachelor party lifestyle. Not only will it be detrimental for your physical appearance, there's also the mental issues like these that might appear.
You gotta be smart about it and always keep some women in your rotation. Do you see any women at all right now? I am not gonna lie, I felt something similar recently. It's the clearest sign you can get that you are too much dependent upon women. 3/4 months shouldn't be a huge problem IF you are confident enough and know sooner or later you'll pull a new one.
Even women HB8 and higher go through this occasionally. Its time for some introspection my brother.
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You need therapy.
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Why would *I* need therapy? You are the one who made a post about doing THAT.
Bingo-Player
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Self confidence will be a massive problem and i am facing something similar in my own life
BUT there is a wider issue at play and that is after a decade of heavy social media exposure most people (especially those under 30 ) aren't really sure HOW to act in the real world anymore
This leads to a lot of (unnecessary ) awkwardness and people making themselves appear to be closed off
The good news is most of it can be solved but literally throwing yourself out there , just randomly striking conversations up with people is a great help
I find the worst part is just getting over that first hurdle of breaking the ice and doing an introduction
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What are you talking about?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Hamurabimbi
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Life is pretty random. Sometimes I can’t buy a smile. Other times I hit gold. I have no explanation.
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Thank you. Hoping it gives the OP some motivation lol.. but judging by alot of these responses, he'll prob not come back lol
We need more data, but we also pass a wall which we are less attractive to younger women.
Giovanni SouthSide
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currently dealin with somewhat similar sh1t of rusting out. just hit 32 last month
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut