Good day folks, for the last 3 or 4 months or so I feel like I've lost my vibe, before when I would go out I would get hit on by girls regularly talk to girls etc but recently that hasn't been happening, something i off but can't put my finger on it I haven't changed physically, anyone else experienced this?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Lost my vibe.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Maybe you look sad or worried? try to see what kind of message your face is sending.
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You're lacking self confidence is whats happening. When you're seeking validation, you look around for cues that girls are interested, etc.. and you often dont find it. But when you're in a state of confidence and self assuredness, you look around and see girls glancing at you from every direction.. and even if you're aware that some girls are just noticing you rather than staring, theres always girls taht you dont catch when the're actually checking you out until you end up face to face with them and naturally sht happens.
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
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It happens. Dont overthink it and always keep improving.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Here's some motivation. nothing like a plate cooking for you in panties.. Hopefully you find your confidence back and find a plate you can smash on the regular. one that stays longer than a year lol
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The fart smell mixed with food is ruining the mood though.
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You never mix ass with food.
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Damn bro! This is great
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You could always get back in the mood by jerking off in the back of your mom's car (while she's driving)
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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This is the problem many men will face when living the bachelor party lifestyle. Not only will it be detrimental for your physical appearance, there's also the mental issues like these that might appear.
You gotta be smart about it and always keep some women in your rotation. Do you see any women at all right now? I am not gonna lie, I felt something similar recently. It's the clearest sign you can get that you are too much dependent upon women. 3/4 months shouldn't be a huge problem IF you are confident enough and know sooner or later you'll pull a new one.
Even women HB8 and higher go through this occasionally. Its time for some introspection my brother.
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You need therapy.
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Why would *I* need therapy? You are the one who made a post about doing THAT.
Bingo-Player
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Self confidence will be a massive problem and i am facing something similar in my own life
BUT there is a wider issue at play and that is after a decade of heavy social media exposure most people (especially those under 30 ) aren't really sure HOW to act in the real world anymore
This leads to a lot of (unnecessary ) awkwardness and people making themselves appear to be closed off
The good news is most of it can be solved but literally throwing yourself out there , just randomly striking conversations up with people is a great help
I find the worst part is just getting over that first hurdle of breaking the ice and doing an introduction
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What are you talking about?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Life is pretty random. Sometimes I can’t buy a smile. Other times I hit gold. I have no explanation.
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Thank you. Hoping it gives the OP some motivation lol.. but judging by alot of these responses, he'll prob not come back lol
We need more data, but we also pass a wall which we are less attractive to younger women.
Giovanni SouthSide
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currently dealin with somewhat similar sh1t of rusting out. just hit 32 last month
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut