Good day folks, for the last 3 or 4 months or so I feel like I've lost my vibe, before when I would go out I would get hit on by girls regularly talk to girls etc but recently that hasn't been happening, something i off but can't put my finger on it I haven't changed physically, anyone else experienced this?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Lost my vibe.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Maybe you look sad or worried? try to see what kind of message your face is sending.
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You're lacking self confidence is whats happening. When you're seeking validation, you look around for cues that girls are interested, etc.. and you often dont find it. But when you're in a state of confidence and self assuredness, you look around and see girls glancing at you from every direction.. and even if you're aware that some girls are just noticing you rather than staring, theres always girls taht you dont catch when the're actually checking you out until you end up face to face with them and naturally sht happens.
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
Try going out and just enjoying the night rather than thinking about women..
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It happens. Dont overthink it and always keep improving.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Here's some motivation. nothing like a plate cooking for you in panties.. Hopefully you find your confidence back and find a plate you can smash on the regular. one that stays longer than a year lol
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The fart smell mixed with food is ruining the mood though.
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You never mix ass with food.
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Damn bro! This is great
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You could always get back in the mood by jerking off in the back of your mom's car (while she's driving)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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This is the problem many men will face when living the bachelor party lifestyle. Not only will it be detrimental for your physical appearance, there's also the mental issues like these that might appear.
You gotta be smart about it and always keep some women in your rotation. Do you see any women at all right now? I am not gonna lie, I felt something similar recently. It's the clearest sign you can get that you are too much dependent upon women. 3/4 months shouldn't be a huge problem IF you are confident enough and know sooner or later you'll pull a new one.
Even women HB8 and higher go through this occasionally. Its time for some introspection my brother.
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You need therapy.
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Why would *I* need therapy? You are the one who made a post about doing THAT.
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Self confidence will be a massive problem and i am facing something similar in my own life
BUT there is a wider issue at play and that is after a decade of heavy social media exposure most people (especially those under 30 ) aren't really sure HOW to act in the real world anymore
This leads to a lot of (unnecessary ) awkwardness and people making themselves appear to be closed off
The good news is most of it can be solved but literally throwing yourself out there , just randomly striking conversations up with people is a great help
I find the worst part is just getting over that first hurdle of breaking the ice and doing an introduction
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What are you talking about?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hamurabimbi
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Life is pretty random. Sometimes I can’t buy a smile. Other times I hit gold. I have no explanation.
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Thank you. Hoping it gives the OP some motivation lol.. but judging by alot of these responses, he'll prob not come back lol
We need more data, but we also pass a wall which we are less attractive to younger women.
Giovanni SouthSide
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currently dealin with somewhat similar sh1t of rusting out. just hit 32 last month
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut
Dropped a girl I was fvckin with and just been feelin a certain type of way.
last week I was at a money exchange place here by the border exchanging dollars into pesos and the girl behind the glass counter was kinda smirking and giggling with another female coworker nearby. I felt it was something related to me. was the only customer there.
I straight out asked her
"whats giving you the tickles?
she said " my friend and I like your beard"
I just smiled with a "good lookin" and drifted off.
to me that was a compliment thats falls in between every blue moon from stranger chicks.
on the other sh1tty hand there is times where not even a single eye fvck look from females
I highly recommend you work out and start dressing good if you already don't. Always sport a clean cut. Have a neutral resting face. Sometimes girls have told me that it looks like Im mad dogging the world and get intimidated.
I already incorporated back to my boxing and lifting gym. Been going for 2 weeks straight and Im already feelin strides in the cut