Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
could you define "sub-points" to being "sexual"? It's a bit abstract.add "sexual" to personality
That comes with personalityYou are missing social. Besides that I think it's all about your inner game, stop doing things for women, stop desiring, get your inner game in order and whatever you are after will come (money, friends, girls, whatever) and at the same time you will learn that all of these external matters are less important than you thought.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No offense but it looks like loser incel diagram tripping on races + trying to get "tough" by taking cold showersLet me know what you think
Hmmm, I spent a little time thinking about it so I hate to hear that.No offense but it looks like loser incel diagram tripping on races + trying to get "tough" by taking cold showers
Sorry, but it is not directed enough about how to get women, it seems more like a general "get tough" plan.Hmmm, I spent a little time thinking about it so I hate to hear that.
I could have added more to it also
I was using abstraction and examples. The idea behind it was not optimism or pessimism, but the facts. One thing that I did not do though was rate each trait based on effectiveness, for example, traits in the game department versus traits in the physical department.Sorry, but it is not directed enough about how to get women, it seems more like a general "get tough" plan.
There are a lot of words like "IQ", "height", "race", "genetics", "symmetry"... that it makes it look defeatist to me.
And terms like "combat discipline", "pain tolerance", "military", "vigor" etc... makes it look like it's a plan for shy teenagers trying to man up.
+ I have no faith in "no fap" or things like that.
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mindset.I'm trying to make a comprehensive list of attractive points you can work on.
Here is the current list/diagram:
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Sort of related to mindset, kind of -Mindset.
It is everything. MIndset is the core of all the things you listed there. Without it, most of these traits will come from a place that might be genuine or sustainable.
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It is a practice in many cultures (and religions). Coincidentally, these are cultures that have been around for a long time. A very long time. And which most have the longest life expectancy and sense of fulfillment (regardless of how many possessions they own).Sort of related to mindset, kind of -
There's a convenience store not too far from my apartment that's run by a very nice older Indian couple. The lady was in there the other night when I walked in, and we got to talking about things while I was checking out.
She suggested to me to turn the TV off while eating dinner. Says that food is actually digested better when there are no visual or audible distractions around while you eat. Apparently that's a practice in Hindu.
Can you please be more specific.Mindset.
It is everything. Mindset is the core of all the things you listed there. Without it, most of these traits will come from a place that might be genuine or sustainable.
Modern Man Advice
Face & Dvck. But I’m not so sure one can ‘work on them’.I'm trying to make a comprehensive list of attractive points you can work on.
Here is the current list/diagram:
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Tell me if I am missing anything![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.