That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
could you define "sub-points" to being "sexual"? It's a bit abstract.add "sexual" to personality
That comes with personalityYou are missing social. Besides that I think it's all about your inner game, stop doing things for women, stop desiring, get your inner game in order and whatever you are after will come (money, friends, girls, whatever) and at the same time you will learn that all of these external matters are less important than you thought.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No offense but it looks like loser incel diagram tripping on races + trying to get "tough" by taking cold showersLet me know what you think
Hmmm, I spent a little time thinking about it so I hate to hear that.No offense but it looks like loser incel diagram tripping on races + trying to get "tough" by taking cold showers
Sorry, but it is not directed enough about how to get women, it seems more like a general "get tough" plan.Hmmm, I spent a little time thinking about it so I hate to hear that.
I could have added more to it also
I was using abstraction and examples. The idea behind it was not optimism or pessimism, but the facts. One thing that I did not do though was rate each trait based on effectiveness, for example, traits in the game department versus traits in the physical department.Sorry, but it is not directed enough about how to get women, it seems more like a general "get tough" plan.
There are a lot of words like "IQ", "height", "race", "genetics", "symmetry"... that it makes it look defeatist to me.
And terms like "combat discipline", "pain tolerance", "military", "vigor" etc... makes it look like it's a plan for shy teenagers trying to man up.
+ I have no faith in "no fap" or things like that.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Mindset.I'm trying to make a comprehensive list of attractive points you can work on.
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Sort of related to mindset, kind of -Mindset.
It is everything. MIndset is the core of all the things you listed there. Without it, most of these traits will come from a place that might be genuine or sustainable.
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It is a practice in many cultures (and religions). Coincidentally, these are cultures that have been around for a long time. A very long time. And which most have the longest life expectancy and sense of fulfillment (regardless of how many possessions they own).Sort of related to mindset, kind of -
There's a convenience store not too far from my apartment that's run by a very nice older Indian couple. The lady was in there the other night when I walked in, and we got to talking about things while I was checking out.
She suggested to me to turn the TV off while eating dinner. Says that food is actually digested better when there are no visual or audible distractions around while you eat. Apparently that's a practice in Hindu.
Can you please be more specific.Mindset.
It is everything. Mindset is the core of all the things you listed there. Without it, most of these traits will come from a place that might be genuine or sustainable.
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Face & Dvck. But I’m not so sure one can ‘work on them’.I'm trying to make a comprehensive list of attractive points you can work on.
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.