"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just asked her out and she said "maybe in February, this semester is busy"

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Don’t do anything.
If someone is honestly too busy until...February.. they are not in to you.
Interested women make things easy for you. Anything aside from high interest in the beginning is a waste. Don’t waste your time.
Absolutely!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
This is what happens when a woman isn't interested. Any little thing becomes a reason she can't meet.

If she was interested, no obstacle would be too big to overcome to meet.
 

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Anything you say or any attention you give at this point is just wasting your own time. She's not only not interested, she also has zero respect for you. You're disrespecting yourself by dealing with these kinds of people.
The problem is there’s TONS of people out there just like this woman.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Imagine if Dicaprio texted her. Would she say she's busy? Would Cobra Tate wait? Comply or bye.
Exactly and to the point.
She would CHASE him for a date.

Women always have exceptions for those they consider the mega alphas/chads and for the ones they consider beta AFC's they set rules.
 

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Yes, but that's even more reason not to waste your time on them. They'll take up all your time and energy if you let them.
It gets tiresome bumping into those types so frequently though. Banish them all to an island for all I care. We’d be better off.
 

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
Treat it as a no. Anytime girls mutter "maybe" that is their way of giving you false hope to keep you orbiting, but not saying yes, because they don't have the guts to say no.

Say "ok. Talk to you in Feburary." Then go date other women and forget all about her.
 

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and if you do decide to reach out, February 15th is the earliest day. Nothing leading up to it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I wouldn't do any of those 4.

Here's what I say when as soon as they suggest meeting more than 72 hours in advance:

"You seem to have a lot on your plate right now so I'm gonna cancel. No worries or hard feelings."
When you say that, well I'd remove the No Worries or Hard Feelings sentence. You're leaving room for her to flake on you again.

But how well does that line work? It does and sound like it brings you from beta to useless. You're not getting laid, but Tyrone is!
 

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Tell her this...Is it true what I heard about you?

She will respond to this guaranteed. Then you tell her...I will tell you in February 2022
 

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
I wouldn't reply at all. I would wait 4 months after February to contact her.
 

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She's testing you to see if you will put up with being a Beta orbiter.

My Rx: You need to spin more plates.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yeah this is probably BS. She's probably just not that into you and trying to evaluate some better options (in her mind) that she has right now. If they fizzle out, she has you on the back burner. Women that are interested will do anything to F you. I've got a Russian stripped flying to NY from FL just to see me for a couple of days (I'm not paying for anything btw).
 

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Exactly and to the point.
She would CHASE him for a date.

Women always have exceptions for those they consider the mega alphas/chads and for the ones they consider beta AFC's they set rules.
Fellas need to be more savage with time. Any sign of disinterested or ambiguity, I walk. #next hotter girls are turning 18 everyday. Fertility is declining contrary to the girl power narrative.

Lose number and don't even acknowledge her existence in future outings. Said ***** is dead to you.

If she was run over by a monster truck, you are too busy hitting on skanks and going balls deep to give a **** nor attend funeral.
 

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Yeah this is probably BS. She's probably just not that into you and trying to evaluate some better options (in her mind) that she has right now. If they fizzle out, she has you on the back burner. Women that are interested will do anything to F you. I've got a Russian stripped flying to NY from FL just to see me for a couple of days (I'm not paying for anything btw).
Exactly. It could be a zombies apocalypse or global pandemic. Women are still clawing the eyes out of everyone to get to the alpha male.
 

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This is what happens when a woman isn't interested. Any little thing becomes a reason she can't meet.

If she was interested, no obstacle would be too big to overcome to meet.
+1

Which again, why every past OG in the game emphasized on VOLUME & & & the most often piece Said, "IT'S A NUMBERS GAME." as a man, you approach. You make space. You drop invitation. She comes or next. One thing that I don't play a game of is text game phaggotry. I want my d sucked. Send location. Movie night. Tell her to dress sexy. Any decline in compliance means next. Even compliance means #nextset.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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