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Calm down man. If you think that what I'm saying is "attacking you" Idk what to say.

1) this board doesn't seem very gamey in general
2) never heard any of your points which is why I brought it up

That's all I will say
I will try to keep it civil for the last time and offer actionable advice specifically for you.

1. Go to a board or place that is "gamey", they are out there.

2. If you decide to stay here, open up your own field reports thread.

3. Post about your approaches, guys will be far more likely to help and offer feedback.

It is a far better use of your time than arguing with people or persistently going at me as "paranoid". You learn by doing.

Get out there, get approaching, and start your own field reports thread on it.
 

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2/2/23

Today was a doozy. It is weird because I am working out every other day and yesterday, I worked out and everything. However, despite getting a full 8 hours of sleep, I woke up very exhausted today and even found myself sleeping in. WTF....Then got through work and it seems like there is drama at work too. We had meetings all morning and all afternoon. Then I realized that I had to get on top of other stuff like health insurance overcharging me and everything, it was just crazy!!!

My boss is slowly starting to not care at all. Could not go out during lunch to approach but did find the energy to approach after work.

I was practically determined to make it work and so after work, I went at it near a local mall. It's been quite some time when I had a proper approach session too. Usually I would go out on weekends and do sets but there has been a major gap in all of that. My life has been all over the place with getting sick and then trying to find a new job and all. I told myself that no matter what happens, I am going to stay at it with a routine. Maybe it is a stoic mindset.

Approach 1

I saw this cute Latina with a golden doodle but right in front of her was an older woman who looked back and called a name. At first I thought it was her mom but I had already made the approach anyways in the process. She was friendly but seemed to want to go away or not chat much. I felt like there was potential here but I slipped. Game sticking point is once again, old mindset of caring too much. I could have just opened her with confidence and then let her mom being there just work itself out but no, I slipped up and came off awkward on the approach.

Approach 2

Saw this woman dressed in a nurse outfit walk across from me. Opened her asking if she is a nurse, she said she is a pharma sales rep. We chat for like 30 seconds and then when I asked if she is Brazilian, she shakes her head and walks away. My energy was off with this approach too. I had spent the first 30 minutes out not even doing an approach.

Approach 3

Told myself enough is enough. Got too nervous in the past few approaches worrying about what others might think and got too in my head. Well, I approach this woman looking off into the sunset and she gives me a dry response. Then I say "your Russian?", she says no French. Then out the store walks this super tall guy who is her husband........Maybe a degree of being careful could have worked. I hear women that wait outside of stores are waiting for their SOs or friends.

Approach 4

Walk around and see this older chick in all white. Use the Austen Summers ACII method (Attention, context, intent, etc.) and open her, she is once again coming off as dry. I tell her she must be Eastern European, she says no and then walks away. Seemed like a b1tch.

Approach 5

See this brunette in all black walk across from me, I turn around and then walk in front of her. Open her, tell her she has the most LA look. She smiles a bit but then says she is from Miami. I told her that would have been my 20th guess. She then says have a nice day. Well, not a good day at all.
 

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Lessons

The good

1. I finally got out there and did an approach session after almost 2 months of misery due to health issues and such.

2. I feel like I didn't let rejection rattle me which is weird. Old me eats up rejections and lets them get him down but new me wanted to keep on approaching. Unfortunately the area I am in is low volume but occasional high quality.

3. Day 4 NoFap after having developed a porn addiction due to getting quite sick late in November.

The bad

1. Vibe matters so much and mines was dry. I was exhausted mentally from work and I just need to cope better. I fear my new job might end just as soon as it began too because the company seems to be a mess and layoffs are happening everywhere.

2. No line or framework to use and I feel like I was just winging it with my approaches, that definitely mattered and made me look lost.

3. Hesitation. I feel like I had this instance of where I would see no sets and then out of nowhere, many sets happened and I would get nervous and not approach. Have to get over this but has to be expected after over a couple of months without a proper daygame session.

I need to work on being more energetic, doing exercises beforehand when I go out to game to set myself in a better mood, having lines ready/openers ready.

As a bonus, I think I have found a place that is always going to have opportunities in my area!
 

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2/2/23

I went at it near a local mall. It's been quite some time when I had a proper approach session too.
A 5 approach day at a mall on a weekday in the middle of the day/early evening is solid in terms of quantity of approaches.

Today's results were disappointing in terms of quality of approaches.
 

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A 5 approach day at a mall on a weekday in the middle of the day/early evening is solid in terms of quantity of approaches.

Today's results were disappointing in terms of quality of approaches.
Yes they were and I have myself to blame a bit. Mentally and emotionally, I was exhausted from work and had to force myself out there. I am glad I did but I feel like I got way too in my own head. A lot of February is going to be a rebuilding time for me.
 

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Yes they were and I have myself to blame a bit. Mentally and emotionally, I was exhausted from work and had to force myself out there. I am glad I did but I feel like I got way too in my own head. A lot of February is going to be a rebuilding time for me.
Vibe matters so much and mines was dry. I was exhausted mentally from work and I just need to cope better. I fear my new job might end just as soon as it began too because the company seems to be a mess and layoffs are happening everywhere.
Economic insecurity does affect approaching and vibe. A man's vibe is often tied into his employment status. A lot of people are concerned right now about their job security.

While Roosh did write an article about getting laid while unemployed, it is difficult to put what he preached in that article into practice. I tried while I was unemployed at times in the past.

 

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Economic insecurity does affect approaching and vibe. A man's vibe is often tied into his employment status. A lot of people are concerned right now about their job security.

While Roosh did write an article about getting laid while unemployed, it is difficult to put what he preached in that article into practice. I tried while I was unemployed at times in the past.

For me, the fear of unemployment is no longer just the lack of money coming in but that lack of health insurance. I am going on COBRA or at least some other cheaper option if I get fired. If I do get fired though, I am going to ask for a bigger severance as well. The other thing my friends are doing that have been laid off is going more and more into entrepreneurship, I really want to explore that route now.
 

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For me, the fear of unemployment is no longer just the lack of money coming in but that lack of health insurance. I am going on COBRA or at least some other cheaper option if I get fired. If I do get fired though, I am going to ask for a bigger severance as well. The other thing my friends are doing that have been laid off is going more and more into entrepreneurship, I really want to explore that route now.
In the United States, there is government healthcare for unemployed people. I thought COBRA became outdated once the government healthcare started in the early to mid-2010s.

COBRA came about in the 1980s. Very few employees have ever used COBRA, even before 2010s government healthcare or after it.

I did government healthcare during one of my unemployment stints.

Employment and healthcare issues often impact game, so this is a key part of a discussion.
 

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In the United States, there is government healthcare for unemployed people. I thought COBRA became outdated once the government healthcare started in the early to mid-2010s.

COBRA came about in the 1980s. Very few employees have ever used COBRA, even before 2010s government healthcare or after it.

I did government healthcare during one of my unemployment stints.
Well if I get laid off then that whole month, my insurance runs. If I pick a new insurance, it needs 3 weeks to go through processing. In the meantime, I will be trying to attempt side income on top of my 9 to 5. In before jokes from @BillyPilgrim lol.
 

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I sense that when a man hits his early to mid 30s, living with his parents becomes less feasible. Roosh was in his early 30s when he wrote about getting laid while unemployed and living in his dad's basement.

As a man, when you get to your 30s and 40s, your parents are retired/retiring and don't want their adult children living at home. Whereas a lot of 20 somethings can go crash at a parent's place, this becomes less feasible as a man gets older.

It's never good for game to live at home with parents after about 22-23. Some parents live in suburbs or exurbs, which are bad for logistics. Some parents are also not cool with their adult sons bringing women home for sex.

Women in their 20s and 30s face less of a sexual marketplace penalty for living with a parent.
 

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Weirdest wingman ever (2/11/23)

After a long and exhausting week and having finished moving last week to a new pad, basically in the same neighborhood but different building, I hit the pavement again. My main wings were out of town so I went to the pickup group chat I am a part of. I get linked up with this one dude visiting Miami from NYC and say screw it, why not, I can teach him a few pointers. Meet him and it was some short bald white guy.

Immediately, I notice how neurotic the guy was. Like you know guys that open their eyes wide as they talk? This dude freaking did that. Then we snoop out the area for some sets and I these two black kids, looked to be high school age, dressed real ghetto stand near us. One of the kids was sagging his pants while wearing a wife beater and his friend called him out on it, saying he should not do that.

Not sure wtf happened with my wing but he butted into the conversation saying "oh nooooo, don't do that, you sag your pants bro someone will be up in your butt". I immediately step away a bit from my wing as the black dude's friend laughs. Then the black kid says to my wing "what u sayin cuz?". My wing says "sir you have a nice butt and I am sure a nice **** too, I'd suck it if I was gay". I step away even more as the black kid confronts this wing of mines and pushes him.

"All chocolate fever here bro" as the black kid's friend is laughing and the black kid is pissed, even throwing a nearby stone at my wing and shouting. Security comes and my wing says to them "it's all good, there was just a misunderstanding". The black kid gets raged and says "misunderstanding my ass n*gga, you flirting with me and talking bout my butt that sh*t gay man". Security guard looks confused and says "okay you two, break it up and don't cause commotion". The black kid then threatens my wing who is just trying to calm him down.

I have now officially stepped far away from that guy. Minutes later, he catches up to me and says "you see that? that was building rapport and having social freedom". I nod and smile, then tell him "yeah man I need to call my mom, there has been something, catch you in another set".

This weirdo persists saying "dude, I get it, you are uncomfortable but that is because you do not believe in social freedom". I say "dude I have to go". Then weirdo says "hey man, maybe someone will be up in your butt eh?". I cringe and walk away but this weird phuck is following me around, circling around me as he runs, and says "see, I don't care, I walk up to any woman and say anything, you there miss? nice butt".

He said this to a woman with her boyfriend who then confronts him. I walk away but this boyfriend is grabbing this weirdo by the collar and has his against the wall. People are looking on......

I got far away from that situation. What a weird weird dude.

Killed my will to approach the whole weekend.
 

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Weirdest wingman ever (2/11/23)

After a long and exhausting week and having finished moving last week to a new pad, basically in the same neighborhood but different building, I hit the pavement again. My main wings were out of town so I went to the pickup group chat I am a part of. I get linked up with this one dude visiting Miami from NYC and say screw it, why not, I can teach him a few pointers. Meet him and it was some short bald white guy.

Immediately, I notice how neurotic the guy was. Like you know guys that open their eyes wide as they talk? This dude freaking did that. Then we snoop out the area for some sets and I these two black kids, looked to be high school age, dressed real ghetto stand near us. One of the kids was sagging his pants while wearing a wife beater and his friend called him out on it, saying he should not do that.

Not sure wtf happened with my wing but he butted into the conversation saying "oh nooooo, don't do that, you sag your pants bro someone will be up in your butt". I immediately step away a bit from my wing as the black dude's friend laughs. Then the black kid says to my wing "what u sayin cuz?". My wing says "sir you have a nice butt and I am sure a nice **** too, I'd suck it if I was gay". I step away even more as the black kid confronts this wing of mines and pushes him.

"All chocolate fever here bro" as the black kid's friend is laughing and the black kid is pissed, even throwing a nearby stone at my wing and shouting. Security comes and my wing says to them "it's all good, there was just a misunderstanding". The black kid gets raged and says "misunderstanding my ass n*gga, you flirting with me and talking bout my butt that sh*t gay man". Security guard looks confused and says "okay you two, break it up and don't cause commotion". The black kid then threatens my wing who is just trying to calm him down.

I have now officially stepped far away from that guy. Minutes later, he catches up to me and says "you see that? that was building rapport and having social freedom". I nod and smile, then tell him "yeah man I need to call my mom, there has been something, catch you in another set".

This weirdo persists saying "dude, I get it, you are uncomfortable but that is because you do not believe in social freedom". I say "dude I have to go". Then weirdo says "hey man, maybe someone will be up in your butt eh?". I cringe and walk away but this weird phuck is following me around, circling around me as he runs, and says "see, I don't care, I walk up to any woman and say anything, you there miss? nice butt".

He said this to a woman with her boyfriend who then confronts him. I walk away but this boyfriend is grabbing this weirdo by the collar and has his against the wall. People are looking on......

I got far away from that situation. What a weird weird dude.

Killed my will to approach the whole weekend.
I asked you to keep this private Jesse.
 

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Weirdest wingman ever (2/11/23)

After a long and exhausting week and having finished moving last week to a new pad, basically in the same neighborhood but different building, I hit the pavement again. My main wings were out of town so I went to the pickup group chat I am a part of. I get linked up with this one dude visiting Miami from NYC and say screw it, why not, I can teach him a few pointers. Meet him and it was some short bald white guy.

Immediately, I notice how neurotic the guy was. Like you know guys that open their eyes wide as they talk? This dude freaking did that. Then we snoop out the area for some sets and I these two black kids, looked to be high school age, dressed real ghetto stand near us. One of the kids was sagging his pants while wearing a wife beater and his friend called him out on it, saying he should not do that.

Not sure wtf happened with my wing but he butted into the conversation saying "oh nooooo, don't do that, you sag your pants bro someone will be up in your butt". I immediately step away a bit from my wing as the black dude's friend laughs. Then the black kid says to my wing "what u sayin cuz?". My wing says "sir you have a nice butt and I am sure a nice **** too, I'd suck it if I was gay". I step away even more as the black kid confronts this wing of mines and pushes him.

"All chocolate fever here bro" as the black kid's friend is laughing and the black kid is pissed, even throwing a nearby stone at my wing and shouting. Security comes and my wing says to them "it's all good, there was just a misunderstanding". The black kid gets raged and says "misunderstanding my ass n*gga, you flirting with me and talking bout my butt that sh*t gay man". Security guard looks confused and says "okay you two, break it up and don't cause commotion". The black kid then threatens my wing who is just trying to calm him down.

I have now officially stepped far away from that guy. Minutes later, he catches up to me and says "you see that? that was building rapport and having social freedom". I nod and smile, then tell him "yeah man I need to call my mom, there has been something, catch you in another set".

This weirdo persists saying "dude, I get it, you are uncomfortable but that is because you do not believe in social freedom". I say "dude I have to go". Then weirdo says "hey man, maybe someone will be up in your butt eh?". I cringe and walk away but this weird phuck is following me around, circling around me as he runs, and says "see, I don't care, I walk up to any woman and say anything, you there miss? nice butt".

He said this to a woman with her boyfriend who then confronts him. I walk away but this boyfriend is grabbing this weirdo by the collar and has his against the wall. People are looking on......

I got far away from that situation. What a weird weird dude.

Killed my will to approach the whole weekend.
Jeez. Did you meet up with the reincarnation of Sasha Daygame? Lol
 

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Pickup groups and pickup forums tend to attract some strange men.

Most men are normies/AFCs. A lot of these normies/AFCs tend to stumble their way into girlfriend relationships and later get married. They never find forums such as SoSuave.

The guys that find red pill, black pill, and pickup content are not mainstream guys. When a mainstream guy happens to find the red or black pill, it's often after some bad incident in their lives, such as a breakup or a divorce.
 
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Weirdest wingman ever (2/11/23)

After a long and exhausting week and having finished moving last week to a new pad, basically in the same neighborhood but different building, I hit the pavement again. My main wings were out of town so I went to the pickup group chat I am a part of. I get linked up with this one dude visiting Miami from NYC and say screw it, why not, I can teach him a few pointers. Meet him and it was some short bald white guy.

Immediately, I notice how neurotic the guy was. Like you know guys that open their eyes wide as they talk? This dude freaking did that. Then we snoop out the area for some sets and I these two black kids, looked to be high school age, dressed real ghetto stand near us. One of the kids was sagging his pants while wearing a wife beater and his friend called him out on it, saying he should not do that.

Not sure wtf happened with my wing but he butted into the conversation saying "oh nooooo, don't do that, you sag your pants bro someone will be up in your butt". I immediately step away a bit from my wing as the black dude's friend laughs. Then the black kid says to my wing "what u sayin cuz?". My wing says "sir you have a nice butt and I am sure a nice **** too, I'd suck it if I was gay". I step away even more as the black kid confronts this wing of mines and pushes him.

"All chocolate fever here bro" as the black kid's friend is laughing and the black kid is pissed, even throwing a nearby stone at my wing and shouting. Security comes and my wing says to them "it's all good, there was just a misunderstanding". The black kid gets raged and says "misunderstanding my ass n*gga, you flirting with me and talking bout my butt that sh*t gay man". Security guard looks confused and says "okay you two, break it up and don't cause commotion". The black kid then threatens my wing who is just trying to calm him down.

I have now officially stepped far away from that guy. Minutes later, he catches up to me and says "you see that? that was building rapport and having social freedom". I nod and smile, then tell him "yeah man I need to call my mom, there has been something, catch you in another set".

This weirdo persists saying "dude, I get it, you are uncomfortable but that is because you do not believe in social freedom". I say "dude I have to go". Then weirdo says "hey man, maybe someone will be up in your butt eh?". I cringe and walk away but this weird phuck is following me around, circling around me as he runs, and says "see, I don't care, I walk up to any woman and say anything, you there miss? nice butt".

He said this to a woman with her boyfriend who then confronts him. I walk away but this boyfriend is grabbing this weirdo by the collar and has his against the wall. People are looking on......

I got far away from that situation. What a weird weird dude.

Killed my will to approach the whole weekend.
Damn bro, Im sorry about that. But its the funniest thing I read all year.
 

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2/16/23 - Back at it with results and I get approached by security guard.

Woke up this morning and found my weight lower than it has even been at 177 lbs. I have been lifting every other day and combining that lifting with running to wrap things up (usually a mile or two). Cleaned up my diet a good bit too. Not feeling downright sick or having blood come out of places it shouldn't on a man so not Cancer as far as I know (knock on wood). Funny to think that I was around 195 lbs back in Jan 2022!

Work was hectic as usual and crazy too. I am new and I feel like I have more ownership on things while everyone else senior on the team could care less. Not laid off so far despite the crazy economy but once again, knock on wood! After a crazy week at work as well as a crazy day, decided to say screw it and head out to do some daygame at a nearby mall. I didn't look my best as I could use a haircut and I swear my eyebrows are getting bushier than normal. Moved last week too so there was that.

Mentality changed to where I said I am gonna be out for 2 hours and whatever happens then, happen.

Approach 1

See this sexy dark-haired girl walk in front of this white guy and Asian girl couple I was walking behind. I quickly walk past them and then near the girl. Tell her she has the most NYC look I have seen and she smiles, says she is from Argentina. However, seconds later she heads right into a store. Darn.

Approach 2

Happened almost 30 min later but I am walking around and see this girl ahead of me. Dark hair, ponytail, and olive tan. However, there is a middle aged couple in the way so I walk past them. Open her and tell her "hey excuse me, I was completing my walk after work but saw you, had to tell you that you have the most LA look I have seen today". She smiled, sounded really basic and said she is from Ft Lauderdale. I tell her "you kinda look like a Miami version of Dua Lipa come to think of it", she found that funny. We chatted for quite a few and she said she recently moved nearby and it's funny because she is actually of Albanian background.

I joke with her and said "it's okay, we can kidnap Liam Neeson's daughter together sometime, for who knows how many times". She found it funny and bust out laughing. We keep talking but I screen her and say "I guess I stopped your Equinox workout", she said they don't have the class she wants today. Walk with her and get to know her a bit, we just keep chatting and I let her lead the convo. Then I point out a store near me and say "seems like your kind of place" (it was a Sephora), she says "it's basic". I tell her "basic and bougee is the vibe here". She tells me "what are you saying about me?", I said "the place here, this entire mall, my world doesn't always revolve around you you know", teasing.

She did find it funny but I ask her what she is doing this Saturday. Tells me it is a free day for me. I tell her I am free too now that the Superbowl ended and all my drunk friends are going sober (probably overkill lol). Grab her Instagram and tell her she can check out a coffee shop nearby. I also pitch my rooftop and tell her "I will be sending your rooftop pool stories so you can see where the sunburn came from". She laughed but I keep talking to her.

Told me she had to go but then I stick around.

Approach 3

I keep walking around for an hour, nothing. I get some water and then keep walking around, place seems to be dying out. Then I see this girl with the most Kendall Jenner look to her. White girls with black hair and a tan, slowly growing to be my kind. I say screw it and approach her, my opener is more Austen Summers. I go direct and tell her "hey I was finishing up my walk after work, saw you, thought you were cute, and had to come tell you". She smiled and played with her hair a bit, good sign and I was focused enough to pick up on it.

Then I joke and say "now hoping you are not under 18", she smiled and said she is 21. I joke and say "great, so I can finally bring you to bars without having to worry about your fake ID". She smiled and said "you do this a lot". I joke and say "only on Thursdays". She found that funny as we are walking around.

I point out a coffee place and she say she was gonna get coffee. I tell her "I am getting decaf so you know I am an addict". Turns into instadate and we are at the coffee shop. She is from California and then mentions on our date that I am the fifth guy to randomly approach her this week. I found that weird and say "well, Miami culture for you, we are trying to convert you into a Dolphins fan". She says "eewww no, I like the Raiders". I tell her "so you're the naughty kind of Californian". She smiles with her finger at her mouth, turns to me, and asks "how?". I respond with a "because your mascot is literally a dude with an eyepatch and your name is the Raiders" which she found funny.

Coffee shop is closing so we step outdoors near a bunch of shops the mall had.

We talk for a good bit and I got her IG too. She said she wanted to come to Florida because CA is unlivable. I joke and say "yeah, all that perfect weather makes you spoiled, you needed to challenge yourself with humidity". She found it funny to where she grabbed my arm. I start trying to pitch my rooftop and tell her I am going to cool off, she says she has to go join her friends in Wynnwood. I tell her "get wet with the hipsters after a swim", she says "naw naw, I mean I just met you". I tell her "a guy you just met and then you go to his rooftop pool, now that's a story to share with friends".

She says "I just met you but I am free this weekend". I tell her "but the pool will be packed". She says "but I thought it was yours!". I say "well I have to be nice to my guests" (quick thinking lol). She bites her lip and says "Saturday". I tell her "alright, I will take you at your word, meanwhile you will have to look at my stories".

Could have closed harder, would have been a heck of a same day lay but failed.

Day turns out way better than expected.

Security guard confronts me.

Security guard, this overweight black dude, confronts me and says "my dude, I saw what you did".

I joke with him and say "you don't approve of coffee this late, I get it".

He shakes his head, laughs, and says "my dude, I saw what you did" while laughing.

I smile and look at him.

Then he fist bumps me and says "gotta respect a mack though". I smile and nod, tell him "hey man, gotta shoot my shot when I can if she is interested, if not then you walk away". He says "you ain't even gotta worry bout all that bro, I seen dudes come up in here and jump in front of girls trying to shake their hands and a couple dudes even grab girls but you all good homie". Then somehow we talk about women for a solid 30 min.

I have seen this security guard around and then I leave to go home. Before I do, he tells me "yo, you need anything or any help, I got you".
 

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Reflecting on today and a lesson I have learned in game.

So many pickup dudes and coaches preach taking big action and always "taking action". However, I have seen so many dudes do 30+ approaches in pickup groups and not end up with anything. It is always the same crap too where these guys are always opening with the same halfa$$ed line of "ur cute" or "hi I thought u looked cute". As I have done daygame more and might even get into nightgame again, I have realized that efficiency beats action.

Knowing which girls to approach, approaching the right way, and really only doing it when you truly like the girl's look beat just randomly spamming.

I do not want to count chickens before they hatch but I went 2 for 3 today. I have had other days in daygame where I went 6 for 10 or had an above 50% rate of closing numbers and IGs. It is not common but it does happen. Even on days where I did not close anything but only did a handful of approaches, I valued them over days I did over 20 approaches. Give me 5 girls to talk to in a day I love and am attracted to as opposed to 30 randoms where I am only approaching to "take action".

I am going to experiment more but my theme for 2023 is efficiency over action.

If you can get laid in 6 approaches, why bother doing 60?

Even if you cannot get laid, talk to 10 girls you are genuinely attracted to and like the look of over 40 who you are approaching for the sake of approaching.

When I have done this though, I have found a lot less girls that I would bother approaching.
 

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Reflecting on today and a lesson I have learned in game.

So many pickup dudes and coaches preach taking big action and always "taking action". However, I have seen so many dudes do 30+ approaches in pickup groups and not end up with anything. It is always the same crap too where these guys are always opening with the same halfa$$ed line of "ur cute" or "hi I thought u looked cute". As I have done daygame more and might even get into nightgame again, I have realized that efficiency beats action.

Knowing which girls to approach, approaching the right way, and really only doing it when you truly like the girl's look beat just randomly spamming.

I do not want to count chickens before they hatch but I went 2 for 3 today. I have had other days in daygame where I went 6 for 10 or had an above 50% rate of closing numbers and IGs. It is not common but it does happen. Even on days where I did not close anything but only did a handful of approaches, I valued them over days I did over 20 approaches. Give me 5 girls to talk to in a day I love and am attracted to as opposed to 30 randoms where I am only approaching to "take action".

I am going to experiment more but my theme for 2023 is efficiency over action.

If you can get laid in 6 approaches, why bother doing 60?

Even if you cannot get laid, talk to 10 girls you are genuinely attracted to and like the look of over 40 who you are approaching for the sake of approaching.

When I have done this though, I have found a lot less girls that I would bother approaching.
Might as well just game as you go about your day?
 
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