I wanted to do things a bit differently and share an experience from a while back involving social circle game. I usually don't do this because I'd be sharing a bit too much about people but I thought to share it with you guys anyways. Not much cold approaching going on yesterday, area seemed dry. Not going to answer questions about people here because I don't want to give away too much.
Due to recently joining a community, I have had the chance to connect with guys who are doing well in life and with women. While some of these guys make do with dating apps and cold approaches, others have a lifestyle set up where they meet women from that lifestyle itself. One such guy I met gets paid to host swimsuit contests and photograph models. We also have a guy in our community who has a huge list of Au Pairs that he calls to house parties himself.
One of the guys was throwing an event in Miami that had IG models flying over from all over the country. We will call this guy Mark even though that is not his real name. Mark splits his time between Vegas and Miami and was good friends with Dan Bilzerian way back in the day. In fact, Mark had a role in helping introduce Dan to a lot of girls that you commonly see in his pics. Tickets for Mark’s events were reasonably priced for an event of its caliber so I went.
In the past, I have had my opinions on social circle game
but this was different. My perception of social circle game was you make friends and hope they introduce you to women. What Mark did was different, he had a lot of status that he built up over the years and women gravitated towards him because of that. The work that Mark put in put him in a place where he was able to invite a ton of models out and charge what would be a high price for an average guy to come to his event.
It was right after dinnertime and I headed over to the event that Mark invited us to. One of my friends was a bit late so I waited for him. My friend finally shows up and we go to the event itself. I noticed that it was a lot of Instagram model tier girls that were having photos taken and overheard a lot of guys that seemed to work in more nerdy/STEM type of fields.
I tried to talk to a couple of the women but it seemed a lot like a nightclub or any bar. The women themselves were not that easy to talk to compared to any other nightlife venue but the quality itself was much higher. A couple of the girls there I knew work as bottle girls over at LIV. One recognized me so I talked to her and she had her model Brazilian friend as well.
We chatted for a solid thirty minutes or so having a great time as another girl also joined in. A handful of girls, really hot, were drunk and loud. To my surprise, Mark did not hesitate for a second to have security kick them out and these girls were surprised that he did. Usually, they could get away with this **** at a party because they are hot girls but Mark was different.
“Mark does not play,” said the LIV girl.
“I am guessing that is not your first time at his party,” I replied.
“Oh no, Mark throws these sorts of things everywhere but mainly in Miami and Vegas,” she replied.
“These sorts of things?” I asked.
“Yeah, he helps a lot of girls get clout on Instagram and a lot of aspiring models want to come to his event to meet photographers, talent agents, and just to say that they were there because of the reputation they have. We came because he makes the guys pay and it beats having to deal with some drunk at a club who won’t leave you alone,” she said, laughing.
“Here you only get the rich dorks,” I teased as her Brazilian friend laughed.
“I feel like here we get guys that know how to act since they have to pay to get in and it is an exclusive event, Mark picks his friends carefully so we trust that,” she replied.
The women would tell me about how they felt safer and more secure at Mark’s events than they would at a nightclub. The value they got was that they get to meet others trying to make it in social media and modeling like they are so it felt almost like some fun networking event.
The guys at the event.
If there is one thing that felt different about the event, it was the vibe of the men there. At most nightlife venues, the men are usually combative and confrontational. At Mark’s event, most men seemed to be happy and content. I noticed guys were cool with buying me a drink and giving me space at a bar if I needed it. The vibe was a lot more different than a typical competitive nightclub.
I made small talk with some black dude with dreads who was trying to be a musician and added him on Spotify. We would go over and talk to a couple of Scandinavian girls which went well enough for us. The brunette in the group that I talk to is really into me and gets touchy but I cannot help yet feel as if it’s fabricated. We chat for a bit and she tells me about her experiences in different US cities and how she misses LA.
I ask her why and she tells me that LA is the perfect medium between NYC and Miami for her. In NYC, the guys never talk to women and are shy. In Miami, the guys are overly aggressive and forward. I joke and tell her “oh well we didn’t mean to be the 10th group of guys to scare you today”, she has a sense of humor about it and tells me “only the fifth”.
We walk around and then a couple more women come into the group, both blondes and both hot. It is a good time to notice that the girls outnumber the guys in the venue by a lot. Not only do the girls outnumber the guys by a lot but almost every single girl outside of a couple is hot. The girls that are not hot are clearly the ones who paid to get in and were either the SO of a guy there or the fat friend of one of the hot girls. Compared to a typical nightclub and a typical bar, it was significantly better.
My wing and I kept talking to the Scandinavian girl and her group. The vibe was different than it would be at a bar or nightclub. At nightclubs, when the larger group comes, it is usually a way for a girl to tell the random guy she is talking to that he can **** off. The groups are unwelcoming and hostile but here, it was different, they were actually quite open. I talked to others in the group and got their IGs, including that of the girl.
Female behavior at the event.
I am not going to say that women at this event were more approachable, a lot of them seemed to be there to chase clout. Rejections did happen and they happened to me a couple of times. Earlier in the night, I tried to talk to this hot blonde who blew me off. For any guy looking to go to these sorts of events, do not expect most women to give a warm welcome. I’d say women in many ways are just like women you run into at nightclubs in these sorts of events.
However, the difference I noticed was that when you did talk to girls that were receptive to you, there were not as many barriers. You could talk to her for quite some time and didn’t have to worry about a random guy stealing your set or her uglier friends trying to ****block you. Once the women at these events talk to you, they are down for longer conversations.
The other expectation I would tell guys to have is not to pull from these events that night. It seems like the guys who do this for a while will often add a girl on IG and play the long game. A lot of these guys will keep running into the girls due to going to the same events and then at some point, when the timing is right and they have gotten familiar with her, they will have sex. A typical night game spammer will not do well at these sorts of events.