"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ive just made the same mistake that bought me to this site years ago.

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Ive gone and gotten myself in the friends zone, not officially, but i know the signs and i know how i felt last time, and this is worse.

What makes it worse is that my best pal is ****ing the chick that im in the zone with, and im the only person that knows this.

What sucks more is i cant emotionally detach myself from this, and i might have to tell my friend (also my wingman) about how i feel and all hell could break loose.

Still once an AFC always an AFC i guess.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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GloriouslyInsane

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Docs said:
How the hell did that happen?
DJA and DJB want a girl..dja gives it a shot and goes into fz,djb lets him try because they're buddies,djb sees dja in fz and makes his move..djb fvcks the girl
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude i don't know exactly what you're saying but i don't know this guy.I'm just making an (well)educated guess here..(because i did this before,also i don't live in UK)
 

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Heh now that i read over the thread again it kinda makes sense but wte you'll have to wait and hear the truth from the OP
 

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bah, get over her, Buck. There are plenty of other women.

The only real trouble is when you can't succeed with *any* women...that's the problem I've been having lately. ;)
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
DJA and DJB want a girl..dja gives it a shot and goes into fz,djb lets him try because they're buddies,djb sees dja in fz and makes his move..djb fvcks the girl
Thats not quite how it happend, DJA has only recently realised feelings, DJb has somehow came from nowhere.perhaps its because im jealous i dont know.

Im not entirely sure if am in the friendzone, all i know is i definatley havve oneitis.

and i have no proof my pal's being honest. what a mess.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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He was your pal before this...i never said dja and djb agreed to that scenario.I came from nowhere aswell when i pulled this stunt unknowingly(sp?) to my bud..i explained later and he was pretty much ok though.Hey he doesn't own her..getting sidetracked here.
Just next man,you're getting in a ****load of emotional stress if you pursue.
 

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Well, yea my thats what happend, ive said im ok with it, hes even asked me if i want him to stop. and i said exactly that "i dont own her man" and its my prob ill deal with it.

But the truth is im cracking up, i dont know how we got from having girls as social proof to this.

its crazy.
 

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What makes it worse is that my best pal is ****ing the chick that im in the zone with, and im the only person that knows this.
If nobody else knows but you, you have to just keep it to yourself and spin a lot more plates. Telling anybody will only make matters way, way worse. Focus on possibilities, rather than lost causes. If it bugs you too much, just do your best to minimizem contact with them, especially her, at least until you're cured.
 

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Bonhomme said:
If nobody else knows but you, you have to just keep it to yourself and spin a lot more plates. Telling anybody will only make matters way, way worse. Focus on possibilities, rather than lost causes. If it bugs you too much, just do your best to minimizem contact with them, especially her, at least until you're cured.
Golden tip, follow to the line.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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