"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ive just made the same mistake that bought me to this site years ago.

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Ive gone and gotten myself in the friends zone, not officially, but i know the signs and i know how i felt last time, and this is worse.

What makes it worse is that my best pal is ****ing the chick that im in the zone with, and im the only person that knows this.

What sucks more is i cant emotionally detach myself from this, and i might have to tell my friend (also my wingman) about how i feel and all hell could break loose.

Still once an AFC always an AFC i guess.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Docs said:
How the hell did that happen?
DJA and DJB want a girl..dja gives it a shot and goes into fz,djb lets him try because they're buddies,djb sees dja in fz and makes his move..djb fvcks the girl
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dude i don't know exactly what you're saying but i don't know this guy.I'm just making an (well)educated guess here..(because i did this before,also i don't live in UK)
 

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Heh now that i read over the thread again it kinda makes sense but wte you'll have to wait and hear the truth from the OP
 

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bah, get over her, Buck. There are plenty of other women.

The only real trouble is when you can't succeed with *any* women...that's the problem I've been having lately. ;)
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
DJA and DJB want a girl..dja gives it a shot and goes into fz,djb lets him try because they're buddies,djb sees dja in fz and makes his move..djb fvcks the girl
Thats not quite how it happend, DJA has only recently realised feelings, DJb has somehow came from nowhere.perhaps its because im jealous i dont know.

Im not entirely sure if am in the friendzone, all i know is i definatley havve oneitis.

and i have no proof my pal's being honest. what a mess.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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He was your pal before this...i never said dja and djb agreed to that scenario.I came from nowhere aswell when i pulled this stunt unknowingly(sp?) to my bud..i explained later and he was pretty much ok though.Hey he doesn't own her..getting sidetracked here.
Just next man,you're getting in a ****load of emotional stress if you pursue.
 

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Well, yea my thats what happend, ive said im ok with it, hes even asked me if i want him to stop. and i said exactly that "i dont own her man" and its my prob ill deal with it.

But the truth is im cracking up, i dont know how we got from having girls as social proof to this.

its crazy.
 

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What makes it worse is that my best pal is ****ing the chick that im in the zone with, and im the only person that knows this.
If nobody else knows but you, you have to just keep it to yourself and spin a lot more plates. Telling anybody will only make matters way, way worse. Focus on possibilities, rather than lost causes. If it bugs you too much, just do your best to minimizem contact with them, especially her, at least until you're cured.
 

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Bonhomme said:
If nobody else knows but you, you have to just keep it to yourself and spin a lot more plates. Telling anybody will only make matters way, way worse. Focus on possibilities, rather than lost causes. If it bugs you too much, just do your best to minimizem contact with them, especially her, at least until you're cured.
Golden tip, follow to the line.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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