"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options

dadmonson

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This question goes out to all of yall that finished the 21 days. Which part was the worse, the beginning, the middle, or the end and why...

as for me...

day 1 pending
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dadmonson

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I don't kno about yall but when I go long periods without ejaculating or masturbating and then when I do, it doesn't feel as good, anybody else notices this?
 

Dogfish

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argh!
my manliness returns!

wohoo!
6/21.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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flyinshark

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dadmonson said:
I don't kno about yall but when I go long periods without ejaculating or masturbating and then when I do, it doesn't feel as good, anybody else notices this?
Yeah. Here are my findings: If i do it after 4-6 days of abstinence, it feels really, really great. But if i do it after more than 8 days, sometimes it's not THAT good. Sometimes it is, but not always.

I think a-wank-a-week is the ideal, but that's me.
 

Friendly Otter

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14/21

I am going to make it! The first few days were the hardest, but it's all right now. Even though I have been tempted - good thing I have had sex both weekends.

And yes, I have had the same experience as Dadmonson.
 

Holland

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I'll be keeping record in both threads

guess if you're busy it'll be easyer.

3/21
 

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moses! 3/21
i am very nervous.
not because of this only.i feel alone.that's something ..depressive..yes right word..today was depressed..i did not feel confident.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PumpNightmare

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2/21
You know, it would be so much easier to do if I had a girl to help out. Oh well...that's part of the reason I'm doing this...that, and masturbating twice a day (sometimes more) was too much. Also went to the gym today and got someone there to get me started on some weight training. I plan on doing this three days a week, MWF. Time for some muscle.
 

Eulogy

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I busted a load on day 23, and honestly, I feel better than ever.

Not jerking off this long has got to be the most retarded thing I've ever done. I'll just stick to every other day. Works fine for me.
 

chickenlegs03

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hey, PumpNightmare, that's awesome to start hitting the gym. i've been going since 3 weeks ago, and to say it feels incredible would be an understatement. i look forward to going every time, and that 1hr hitting the weights is literally euphoric.

be careful though, as it's going to boost your testosterone a bit. :rockon:

but i honestly think that masturbating is detrimental to working out. i don't think i could have gained the 3lbs of muscle in the past 2 weeks if i had been wacking off the whole time.

good luck w/ your routine.

i'm currently on day 4/21 (2nd option)

btw, i really really need to get laid soon. i'm going to post something in discussion boards about my 'problem'
 

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poor guys. I guess this is all about self control.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yeah i've made it day 3/21 option 1, man this is starting to get to me.
 

PumpNightmare

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3/21 and feeling horny, but the begining is easy...just that end that's hard.
Started my workout today. I had to lower the weight more then what was recomended yesterday. Then again, yesterday I only had time to ask how to work the machines and get a general idea what to do. But to to 3 sets of 10 on these...I struggle after the first one. Rode my bike a mile back home and stretched out a bit...hoepfuly I'll be good for Friday.
 

il_duce

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Day 8/21, option 1

I've felt confident every day since Day 1. Whether it's just the 'placebo' effect or not, it's still working, which is all that matters.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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