Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have the same problem You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I do all of them bar 4wolf116 said:haha I know, I'm a fan
But seriously, you need to take a lesson from my 'natural order of things'
1. Get outside and into the wild
2. Eat natural food
3. lift heavy objects and walk around
4. Sleep at natural times
the end
. Its starting to get really serious too, i'm finding it difficult to eat a meal 4 hours before my 7:30 Muay Thai class due to sleeping in until 4. Does anyone have some research info done on adjusting sleep cycles? I'd be very greatfull.You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
so now we know that iqqi makes her bread as a webcam chick. imLive.com? i have a friend of a friend that promotes that, $100 per sign up or rev share. PM me and i can probably swing a deal between you and him and split the revenue.iqqi said:Thank gosh for the internet. I am glad I can make a living through that, and my own means. But sometimes you have to wake up to make the post office, or secretary of state...
I look very young for my age, because I have slept half of life.
Look at who bumped this thread, and therein lies your answer.LeComteDeMonteCristo said:
And I do prefer boys who are NICE, not nasty, even though both tend to mean the same. One of those techniques was supposed to be outgrown in kindergarden. You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
NO REALLY? I HATE PEOPLE WHO ARE KIND TO ME!!!!!!!!iqqi said:Haha, he has oneitis for the iq. Not the first one.
I prefer your nose, have you considered getting into nose-fetish? I'd pay for that! ;DJust kidding. I was telling someone the other day I might go with the foot fetish scene online. I have pretty feet.
since there is a dispute as to your real gender, split the difference and get yourself on a Tranny site. i'm sure Gubby wouldn't mind.iqqi said:Haha, he has oneitis for the iq. Not the first one.
Gubby, it IS really cool... except when I'm up, I'm up... but when I'm down, I am DOWN. Being broke is not cool. I am thinking about diversifying (online of course). I may have to hit TooCold up.
Just kidding. I was telling someone the other day I might go with the foot fetish scene online. I have pretty feet.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Have you cracked the Forty yet?iqqi said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.