Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is this scenario realistic?

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
It depends on the results of the scientific experiments. :D

im so glad i rock at science!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by penkitten
im so glad i rock at science!
If I had known the Mature Man forum could be this fun, I'd have turned 25 a long time ago!
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
If I had known the Mature Man forum could be this fun, I'd have turned 25 a long time ago!


well duh! thats why i turned 25 two years ago haha
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
well duh! thats why i turned 25 two years ago haha
Why didn't you tell me sooner? Now it's going to take a lot of time and energy to get me caught up. You'd better be up for it.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Why didn't you tell me sooner? Now it's going to take a lot of time and energy to get me caught up. You'd better be up for it.
me = always up for it
the question really is ..
can YOU handle me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by penkitten
the question really is ..
can YOU handle me?
The answer is yes.

Get up here and I'll prove it.
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
\/\/h3r3 teh h3|_|_ r my |<3y5??
I don't know, but every minute you're there and not here is another minute your world isn't getting rocked.

:D
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I don't know, but every minute you're there and not here is another minute your world isn't getting rocked.

:D

rocked?
you better be planning to knock it off its axle:)
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
rocked?
you better be planning to knock it off its axle:)
You talk big but I don't see you naked in my bed yet.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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By the way everyone, this is what we call "thread hijacking". It should be avoided.

Unless the thread is already really stupid.
 

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You saucy kids are getting me all hot and bothered! Get a room!

Now what was this thread about?...

Oh yeah, the unrealistic scenario. Already commented on this...

Gipper
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I'm putting on my robe and wizard hat right now.


:D Ten points for anyone who gets that joke.
Theres also a really funny bash.org joke about that. Too lazy to look right now.

Uh oh, i'm 18 and in the mature men forum.

*See's P_S*

AHHHHHH HE'S GONNA EAT ME!!!.

*runs*
 

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Originally posted by baseballDJ
Hahahaha
(no offense P_S but it is funny)

This thread made my night.

its making our nite too ...for now
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Gipper
You saucy kids are getting me all hot and bothered! Get a room!

wash yer sheets casanova... penkitten is coming over to play
 

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Oh boy. :)

Gipper
 

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Originally posted by Gipper
Oh boy. :)

Gipper
It's like you said, Gip. Things happen to me.

Penkitten... Just call me catnip. I' ll drive you out of your mind.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
It's like you said, Gip. Things happen to me.

Penkitten... Just call me catnip. I' ll drive you out of your mind.

promise??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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