"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is singing in clubs gay?

Myrrdin

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So is it gay to sing the songs that are being played in clubs? You know you're dancing and singing the song that's being played.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warrior74

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If I say it is, will you stop doing it? If I say it isn't will you keep/start doing it? I would enjoy having that much power over you with my opinions.
 

PokerStar

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hell no it isnt
some jams i go to everyone sings along.
like that snoop dog tune "aint no fun"

when the dj plays this tune everyone sings

I dont give a crap waht other people think, im there to have a good time, have a few drinks, dance and sometimes i sing to the tune thats being played.
dont be self conscious
SING YOUR HEART OUT!
 

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Warrior74 said:
If I say it is, will you stop doing it? If I say it isn't will you keep/start doing it? I would enjoy having that much power over you with my opinions.
You might think you have power. The fact is I like doing it and will keep on doing it because I get good results. But I've seen on other PUA-ish forums that it's not cool. Just wanted to see what you guys think.
 

J. Darko

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Singing is ok, but only if people like you to sing because they enjoy your music, not because you sing so bad that everybody is laughing behind your back. Also, singing like Rick Astley is gay, singing like Rammstein is pretty cool.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74

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Myrrdin said:
The fact is I like doing it and will keep on doing it because I get good results.
And that is my point. You do what you like, that's what's really cool. Who cares what others think. You see what I did there? No? Doesn't matter, we got to the heart of the issue. Good post.
 

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If you like singing sing...That's what being a Don Juan is all about. Who really cares if somebody thinks you are gay anyway...because you know you're not and that's all that really matters.
 

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Can you imagine Maximus the Gladiator singing along on a dance party?

More likely shouting on Heavy Metal concert.

I think you are OK. Just don't start to cry when the song is sad.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DanelMadr

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RedZone said:
If you like singing sing...That's what being a Don Juan is all about. Who really cares if somebody thinks you are gay anyway...because you know you're not and that's all that really matters.
If he is singing he has to be at least bi curious.
 

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Warrior beat me to it. The only thing that's gay is worrying about whether or not people think it's gay. If you enjoy it, do it. Screw everyone else.
 

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Some of the things asked on this forum completely bewilder me. Do what makes you happy and stop caring what others think. Obviously singing in a club is a sure sign you're homosexual and obviously no girls will come within 15 feet of you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you feel manly by singing in clubs and are pretty good at, then sing till your heart content! Just do you and don't do any gay movements! That's all there is to it. Oh, and show courage and confidence while you're at it, and don't let someone else's judgement of you be your reality.

Case closed. Try Karaoke Nights too!
 
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