"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is singing in clubs gay?

Myrrdin

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So is it gay to sing the songs that are being played in clubs? You know you're dancing and singing the song that's being played.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If I say it is, will you stop doing it? If I say it isn't will you keep/start doing it? I would enjoy having that much power over you with my opinions.
 

PokerStar

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hell no it isnt
some jams i go to everyone sings along.
like that snoop dog tune "aint no fun"

when the dj plays this tune everyone sings

I dont give a crap waht other people think, im there to have a good time, have a few drinks, dance and sometimes i sing to the tune thats being played.
dont be self conscious
SING YOUR HEART OUT!
 

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Warrior74 said:
If I say it is, will you stop doing it? If I say it isn't will you keep/start doing it? I would enjoy having that much power over you with my opinions.
You might think you have power. The fact is I like doing it and will keep on doing it because I get good results. But I've seen on other PUA-ish forums that it's not cool. Just wanted to see what you guys think.
 

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Singing is ok, but only if people like you to sing because they enjoy your music, not because you sing so bad that everybody is laughing behind your back. Also, singing like Rick Astley is gay, singing like Rammstein is pretty cool.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Warrior74

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Myrrdin said:
The fact is I like doing it and will keep on doing it because I get good results.
And that is my point. You do what you like, that's what's really cool. Who cares what others think. You see what I did there? No? Doesn't matter, we got to the heart of the issue. Good post.
 

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If you like singing sing...That's what being a Don Juan is all about. Who really cares if somebody thinks you are gay anyway...because you know you're not and that's all that really matters.
 

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Can you imagine Maximus the Gladiator singing along on a dance party?

More likely shouting on Heavy Metal concert.

I think you are OK. Just don't start to cry when the song is sad.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DanelMadr

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RedZone said:
If you like singing sing...That's what being a Don Juan is all about. Who really cares if somebody thinks you are gay anyway...because you know you're not and that's all that really matters.
If he is singing he has to be at least bi curious.
 

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Warrior beat me to it. The only thing that's gay is worrying about whether or not people think it's gay. If you enjoy it, do it. Screw everyone else.
 

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Some of the things asked on this forum completely bewilder me. Do what makes you happy and stop caring what others think. Obviously singing in a club is a sure sign you're homosexual and obviously no girls will come within 15 feet of you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you feel manly by singing in clubs and are pretty good at, then sing till your heart content! Just do you and don't do any gay movements! That's all there is to it. Oh, and show courage and confidence while you're at it, and don't let someone else's judgement of you be your reality.

Case closed. Try Karaoke Nights too!
 
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