"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is LinkedIn simply Tinder for careers?

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I was looking at this, and it got me interested:

 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was looking at this, and it got me interested:

No, it's the instagram for careers, but somehow even more fake and insincere. It's a joke platform that only benefits employers.
 

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In the tech industry and some other fields, the platform serves as a tool for job hunting. However, I don't find it particularly effective for networking. Sales teams in enterprise software often use it to target key decision-makers, which can be intrusive.

If you're aiming to get your resume directly to a decision-maker within a specific company, having a large network can sometimes enable someone to personally deliver it for you.

In the tech sector, it's commonly used to identify potential candidates for technical roles.

In my opinion, for most other industries, the platform doesn't offer much utility.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well you probably care about the social media component of it. It’s usefulness at least to me has nothing to do with that, it’s a job finding and emplyeee finding tool. Most people post the contents of their resumes to their profiles.

I don't think it helps with anything. It seems to be a place where people just post garbage hanging on their office walls and pat each other on the back for a life spent in a cubicle.
 

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I guess I should also ask if LinkedIn could be used for macking. :eek:
 

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I guess I should also ask if LinkedIn could be used for macking. :eek:
Plenty of men try to get dates/sex on LinkedIn. I've posted about this occurrence a number of times.

It doesn't work well for seduction.

No, it's the instagram for careers, but somehow even more fake and insincere.
Agree that it is more like Facebook or Instagram. The best performing LinkedIn posts are generally more personal in nature than business in nature.
 

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In the tech industry and some other fields, the platform serves as a tool for job hunting. However, I don't find it particularly effective for networking. Sales teams in enterprise software often use it to target key decision-makers, which can be intrusive.

If you're aiming to get your resume directly to a decision-maker within a specific company, having a large network can sometimes enable someone to personally deliver it for you.

In the tech sector, it's commonly used to identify potential candidates for technical roles.

In my opinion, for most other industries, the platform doesn't offer much utility.
My ex was in the tech sector and got jobs this way. It worked exactly as you described for her. A must have in her situation. She also had lots of guys hit on her thru it.

I had it during my engineering career and it was pretty much worthless.

Even more worthless for what I do now. So much I deleted it.
 

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I really dislike LinkedIn. I get that it's a way to simply connect for resumes and what not, especially in certain industries like tech. Otherwise though, it's 100% a platform of woke/progressive bs. All the content posted is just more of what infests society and the corporate world these days.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yup, I’ve been using it for going on like 20 years, well before it tried to become social media. It’s a job finding and candidate finding tool, I consume ZERO of the social stuff and never have.

Granted I’m in a different generation where social just doesn’t hold much water for me. I do like that blogs and forums like this one seem to be resurgent recently, meaning BBS style instead of what passes for content these days…

Substack for example…
 
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