That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No, it's the instagram for careers, but somehow even more fake and insincere. It's a joke platform that only benefits employers.I was looking at this, and it got me interested:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't think it helps with anything. It seems to be a place where people just post garbage hanging on their office walls and pat each other on the back for a life spent in a cubicle.
Plenty of men try to get dates/sex on LinkedIn. I've posted about this occurrence a number of times.I guess I should also ask if LinkedIn could be used for macking.![]()
Agree that it is more like Facebook or Instagram. The best performing LinkedIn posts are generally more personal in nature than business in nature.No, it's the instagram for careers, but somehow even more fake and insincere.
My ex was in the tech sector and got jobs this way. It worked exactly as you described for her. A must have in her situation. She also had lots of guys hit on her thru it.In the tech industry and some other fields, the platform serves as a tool for job hunting. However, I don't find it particularly effective for networking. Sales teams in enterprise software often use it to target key decision-makers, which can be intrusive.
If you're aiming to get your resume directly to a decision-maker within a specific company, having a large network can sometimes enable someone to personally deliver it for you.
In the tech sector, it's commonly used to identify potential candidates for technical roles.
In my opinion, for most other industries, the platform doesn't offer much utility.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.