"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is it okey to check hers cell phone`?

Zeus

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Hi there! iam curious on my girl, whos she sending sms to. if she flirts with any guy, some kind of signs if shes up to something no good. is it allright to check once in a while hers cell, to see what kind of sms shes been reciving and sending.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Treetz

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I have to admit that ive done that stuff in the past.. but my advice is don't! Youre going to see bad things in everything she does! Ask yourself why you want to check her.. are you afraid of losing her? Then you have to boost your ego! Are you affraid she is cheating? Then find out why she would cheat.. and fix that! If you are still interesting to her then she wont have a reason to...
 

oakraiderz2

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No, dont care. Get your own life.
 

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This shows that you are insecure .. and insecurity never leads to success with women and more importantly in your LIFE.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lol wait till you see her checking your phone then propose a trade :)
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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It depends on the relationship. If you guys are just dating then no.

Instead you should be making her wander about you. Of course it's human nature to want to know (even if you're not that into her or have other options).

If you guys are in a serious relationship with future plans then you should always have the option of knowing what she's doing on her phone. Not by snooping though. She should be respectful enough to tell you or, atleast answer you if you ask.
 

TheOnE111

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Haha man, dont be the chic in this relationship THEY do things like that. Who the hell cares?! there are plenty of fish in the sea.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Zeus said:
Hi there! iam curious on my girl, whos she sending sms to. if she flirts with any guy, some kind of signs if shes up to something no good. is it allright to check once in a while hers cell, to see what kind of sms shes been reciving and sending.
Why are you worried?
 

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If you care - then you are not valuing yourself. Honestly, you need to get rid of the jealousy beast. You are the prize if she doesn't want to be with you then she loses, get it? If you need to see who she's talking or are worried that you may lose her, then she is the prize, not you.
 

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TheOnE111 said:
Haha man, dont be the chic in this relationship THEY do things like that. Who the hell cares?! there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Aint that the truth. I've had girls check my phone, check my emails, listen to voicemail, caller id and everything else that I consider a violation of my privacy. Then they would get carried away with what they did find most of the time.

Why are you insecure anyways? Thats something you should answer for yourself before you go through her phone.
 
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